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by Ezzy on April 13th, 2007

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I went back to cutting. and I'm lost in what I should do with myself. I need some encouragement to keep going on with my life. i know it's dumb to post something like this but I want someone else's opinion. help?

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  • by Blank Savage on September 21st, 2007

    Blank Savage

    I feel for you and I do understand why you do what your doing. We live is such a dark, cold and bitter world at times and it can be so over-whelming. We feel numb because those around us are numb and uncaring and we just want to feel something, anything. I have been down the road of depression which can be lonely at times. i have thought about cutting myself but never went through with it. mainly because a very good friend of mine did and finally went to far and ended her life.

    As many bad things in this world there is also good things that can help us feel the thing to do is try to find those things that make you happy and do them. I can't tell you what those things are because they are different for everyone.

    Part of what I do is help exploited and abused children and work with children who have over come life threatening illnesses like cancer. I also go spend time at the local nursing homes and talk with those that their families have long since forgot about. doing these things gave my life reason and made me feel again.

    You have to understand that your life does have worth and someone out there could really use your knowledge in some way.

    I care my friend even though we have never met, I honestly care.

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  • by Arisztid on September 21st, 2007

    Arisztid

    Firstly, do not get down on yourself for it.

    From your statement "I went back to cutting", this is a relapse.

    If you berate yourself for a relapse, that is going to cause you more stress and that shall result in more of a need to cut. You can get on with your life if you ARE cutting and work on stopping as you do so.

    Every day that you resist the urge to cut is a victory, even if you cut again.

    I hope that you are tending the wounds well and putting something like vitamin E on the scars. Some people say that aloe or cocoa butter help with scars.

    I have a friend in AA. She beat the booze and told me about the program in AA. Most of it I do not like because it relies on the higher power thing.

    However, one of the things that AA teaches is "one day at a time". If you cut today, accept that you did it and work towards the avowal of not doing it again.

    Based on your question, I am guessing that you have done it for some time. Can you work on identifying and diffusing the triggers that cause you to cut? You might not be able to make them go away but you can work on your reaction to the stimulus.

    I used to headbang (one or two blows). I never got the "runner's high" I described. Why I did it was to control my anger when it got out of control. The pain brought me out of it and the act of banging my head seemed to "rattle" some sense in. I worked on diffusing my anger and on finding other ways to deal with that level of personal anger. I learned to write instead of headbang.

    I have not done that in, oh, I would guess, 10 years.

    I identified the triggers within myself and was able to stop.

    That I did not get the runners high made it, I am certain, much easier to beat than someone who does experience beta endorphine release.

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  • by .....----- on October 6th, 2007

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    Its no dumb and i know how you feel, its not easy to stop, and every time you try and you're not ready to stop for good you will have relapses, but thats just the way it is don't give up and things can get better. Just keep on trying, best of luck and best wishes :)

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  • by klute on July 2nd, 2007

    klute

    Dont cut yourself. It's a temporary relief, one of many. There is something in you that needs to be addressed. Only you know what that is. Talking to a therapist would help you identify it and work on resolving the problem. Therapy is there for EVERYONE!!! Dont think your wierd because you go get therapy. I have raised four healthy,happy daughters and still have a marriage of 33 years. I have been in and out of therapy all of those years. Its simply bouncing everything off of someone who is there for you only. They arent there for anyone else that you know, just for you. Hope this helps

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  • by arichter on July 2nd, 2007

    arichter

    Well man, that is a serious thing, a lot of people have problems controlling their inner demons. And many things affect people in different ways, and different "intensities". I can tell you what I do when I'm feeling down, I listen to a little Bob Marley and just think about how great my life is gonna be, another thing you can do is just pick up the phone and call any friend. It's amazing how a little conversation can lift your whole world. Also try just writing, I'd say that cutting yourself is a manifestation of those sad emotion and writing would help you to get it out in a non harmful way, just start writing about anything and keep writing until you feel even a little bit better. If none of that works you should some outside help.

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  • by kellygorski on June 20th, 2007

    kellygorski

    Seek professional help (and no, Jesus doesn't count--unless he's your Spanish therapist).

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  • by BeamnD on April 13th, 2007

    BeamnD

    I would definitely try to find a good hypnotist. With your cooperation, you can achieve great goals and fix some problems permanently. Best wishes.

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  • by EL1 2 on April 13th, 2007

    EL1 2

    Go bake yourself a batch of cookies. It'll cheer you up, buddy.

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  • by PillowPants on June 20th, 2007

    PillowPants

    What made you go back to it? Are you seeing a therapist and taking any meds? If not, maybe that's what you need right now.

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  • by jesusfreak on May 2nd, 2007

    jesusfreak

    Call on the name of the Lord. I know this isn't going to be the best answer and I'll probably get downrated, but He can seriously help. I've never cut before, but I've done a lot of things that only calling on Jesus could help. Start reading in the Word and start focusing on the good things that God has blessed you with in your life.

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  • by Da Azian Boi on June 20th, 2007

    Da Azian Boi

    Seek enlightenment. Think of all the things that make you happy. You could also look for therapy.

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  • by ...trust in the Lord Jesus Christ. on July 2nd, 2007

    ...trust in the Lord Jesus Christ.

    Go to the Lord Jesus Christ and put everything in His hands and trust in Him alone. I used to think suicidal thoughts but when I gave my life to Him, He took all of that away and gave me joy, hope, peace, and assurance of everlasting life. I hope that this is helpful.


    -In the Master's service.
    Thank you and God bless you!

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  • by swheeler on October 22nd, 2008

    swheeler

    These suggestions were made by individuals who have self injured and what they found helpful to them. I hope they help.

    * deep breathing
    * relaxation techniques
    * call a friend, your therapist or a crisis line
    * try not be be alone (visit a friend, go shopping, etc.)
    * take a hot bath
    * listen to music
    * go for a walk
    * write in a journal
    * wear an elastic around wrist and snap it when you have the urge to harm yourself
    * some people find it helpful to draw red lines on themselves instead of cutting themselves
    * hold ice cubes in your hands - the cold causes pain in your hands, but it is not dangerous or harmful (some people find it relieves the urge to harm themselves for that moment)
    * punching a bed or a pillow (when nothing but a physical outlet for your anger and frustration will work).
    * scratch draw a picture on a thick piece of wood or use a screw driver and stab at the piece of wood. (can be another physical way to release your emotions without harming yourself.)
    * avoid temptation (i.e. avoiding the area in CVS where the razor blades are kept, etc.)
    * try to find your own creative ways as outlets for emotions.
    * learn to confront others/making your own feelings known instead of keeping them inside
    * take up a sport (a form of exercise can help you release tension, etc.)
    * draw a picture of what or who is making you angry
    * instead of harming yourself, try massaging the area you want to harm with massage oils or creams, reminding yourself that you are special and you deserve to treat yourself and your body with love and respect
    * go to church or your place of worship
    * break the object that you use to self-injure as a way to show that you have control over it.
    * do some household chores (i.e. cleaning)
    * do some cooking
    * try some sewing, crosstitch, etc.
    * recite a poem, prayer or anything else familiar the comforts you multiple times
    * write down all your positive points and why you do not deserve to be hurt
    * yoga
    * allow yourself to cry. Getting the tears out can make you feel better. It allows the inside to release, as opposed to self abuse. Picture your "ickies" pouring out as you cry.
    * Take a shower

    http://www.parentingteens.com/index/Other+Teen+Issues/Self+Mutilation+Among+Teens

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  • by WussiePussieHasLetHimselfOutOfTheBag on April 29th, 2007

    WussiePussieHasLetHimselfOutOfTheBag

    Try at least to make the scarification artistic. it'll give you something else to focus on, and you'll resent yourself less at the end of the era.

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