by ladyrocke on May 11th, 2005

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Is phone or cyber sex considered cheating?

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by KCTrey on May 11th, 2005
I guess that all depends on who is doing the "considering."

If my girlfriend was doing it, I would call it cheating. If I heard of someone else doing it, I probably wouldn't.

You just have to look at your boyfriend/girlfriend and decide how they would see it. You would definietly be safe assuming that they would consider it cheating, and just not do it, and I would bet that you wouldn't be too happy if you found out they were doing it too.

I will say that phone sex or cybe sex WITH SOMEONE YOU KNOW is definitely more serious than with someone else, and you're a lot more likely to get caught.

In the end, it's up to you, but my opinion is that you already know the answer for your situation.

Edited answer: If you want specific figures, please ask for them before giving a negative rating.

From a study found on Yahoo -
18% of men interviewed have had cyber-sex or phone sex with someone other than their spouse
3% of those men confessed or were discovered by their spouse
2.3% of those are still married

I couldn't find any studies about women. The problem with getting statistics on this is that you have to take into account WHO they were "interacting" with and IF they were ever discovered.
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- i was looking for more of a percentile figure. what percent of couples breakup because of cyber sex and phone sex.
  
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  by ladyrocke on May 12th, 2005
- Useful w/o stats, question is a moral one not of statistics, and purely subjective, there can be no wrong answer
  
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  by Anonymous on July 15th, 2005
- don't rate down... you didn't ask for stats in the first place. we can't read your mind.
  
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  by Jenniferocious on October 21st, 2005
- This answer was clear and concise BEFORE the stats were added. If you wanted stats, you should look them up via any engine.
  
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  by Anonymous on October 25th, 2005
- I like the way you put things
  
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  by deuce101 on November 1st, 2005
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by Persky Bunkermeister on August 7th, 2007
Only if you are not being honest and open with your partner about it. You are also cheating yourself -- wasting time cyber-cheating, when you could either be fixing up the relationship you are in, or doing the hard work of getting out of it, and preparing yourself for a more successful relationship.
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by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on August 7th, 2007
It's cyber-cheating.
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  by jadedheart on December 24th, 2008
- Certainly : )
  
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  by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on December 24th, 2008
- why the hell do ple think that just because its cyber its not cheating? omg it sickens me!
  
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  by jadedheart on December 29th, 2008
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by APACHEmeansENEMY on August 7th, 2007
If you are being sneaky, your partner doesn't know about it or is made uncomfortable by it...then yes! its being a cheater!
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by Mrs.Dufresne on August 7th, 2007
If it would make someone in your life sad and/or angry, then yes, it is cheating.
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by Seraphim Shinobi on August 7th, 2007
if you have to ask that question then chances are that it is
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by Twhupfold on September 22nd, 2007
Well, given that it's so completely impersonal, indirect, and inexplicit - hardly...

Of course, in many ways it 'is' cheating, given that it 'is' a form of sexual behaviour with someone other than your partner... But I think it is stretching the words to their limit.

If your partner isn't ok with it, then it's an abuse of trust or a deliberate betrayal - but I wouldn't say it's cheating (unless you took it to the next level with the online person and actually met them, etc).
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by Sandra havent been here since forever on August 7th, 2007
yeh i wouldnt want my bf to be talkin sexy to nobody but me and i am sure he would feel the same way
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by Seraphim Shinobi on September 22nd, 2007
yes.
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  by oldfashioned on September 22nd, 2007
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by Carmella on September 22nd, 2007
If s/he isn't ok with it, then yes.

A lot of people have open relationships where both partners are free to physically sleep with anyone, in such cases it probably wouldn't be classed as cheating. However if it's an issue for your partner, and your relationship isn't open, then yep, I'd say it counts as cheating.
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by LANGIE on September 22nd, 2007
yeah suppose it virtually is
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by browncat on August 7th, 2007
Are you thinking about someone else while you are doing to nasty to yourself....? Yes it is cheating
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by Patti jo on May 7th, 2007
If you feel it is YES and if you don't NO -- Depends on the person ------ I say YES
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by LuckyLefty on March 5th, 2007
Yes. LOL. Plain & simple.
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by breaktheice. on May 10th, 2008
Yes. Unless you make it open to your partner and say "Ohh yeah. By the way I am talking this way to this person and this way to someone else" Thats not wrong if they know and don't care. It's wrong if you keep it a secret.
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by Whizkid on May 4th, 2008
No uness you know the person in real life. Its like thinking of someone else while having sex with your lover. But then again if he/she finds out they will probrably intrepret it as cheating.
Real boderline... would you want your significant other having cyber sex with someone else?
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by Meeko Master on September 22nd, 2007
if u r doing so , do u mind ur partener doing this?
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by fruity25 on November 20th, 2007
I would have to say yes. My boyfriend did that and he got all he wanted from me, and all of a sudden it stopped. He was too hooked up in dating services and cyber and phone sex to give me any, and if i did he'd ask me if i wanted to "call" someone or whatever. I would def say it is cheating because it would ruin a relationship just like as if you physically were. It is emotionally traumatizing.
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by Anonymous on July 30th, 2008
In my Opinion I have to agree if you hide it from your Significant other its cheating without a doubt. my reasoning is if you feel have to hide it then you are doing something wrong
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by Anonymous on November 23rd, 2009
Yes to be plain and blunt.
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by bfranulovic on May 7th, 2007
Well my husband did it and it felt like cheating. Must of been the things that he said to her that he never says to me. Maybe sick ... so yeah ... its cheating in my book!
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by -Slick- on November 23rd, 2009
Yes plain and simple. +5
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by writemyselfaletter on November 22nd, 2009
Yes...without a doubt.
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by InGod'dHands on December 20th, 2008
point blanl: yes, yes, yes!
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