My wife's job is requesting that she do some traveling. I have turned down promotions with my company beacuse my wife and I did not want me traveling. Now that it is her job she is considering it. How should I handle this, and not be unfair to her.
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Ben
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Women (and being one, I can say this) have a tendency to have standards for their partners that they themselves have a hard time upholding. The traveling is one of those things. I would have to say, ask yourself if this is going to bother you. If it isn't, and your relationship will hold strong, then let her do it. However, if, on the other hand, you DO have a problem with it, let her know this and explain to her that it is not fair that she's using double standards. You probably won't get away with it without some guilting and a fight, but you need to be honest no matter what.
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Have a open and honest talk with her and both of you lay your cards on the table and weigh the good/bad
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That is a tough situation you are in. I guess the best thing to do is talk to her extensively about this. On one hand she did not want you traveling. So why is okay for her to do so? That is what she needs to explain. Hopefully you two can resolve this. Good Luck
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It really all depends on how you feel about it. If you feel you will resent the double standard then I think you should let her know. If she doesn't appreciate your side then you will have to do some thinking about your relationship. If you resent it and don't tell her then I think you're risking causing damage to your relationship by not giving her the chance to see it from your side before she makes her decision.
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