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Impossible to answer without knowing more details, especially what you said.
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The truth is almost always good. It's especially good if she's been giving you hassle for a long time. It's up to you whether you feel bad or not. If she deserved it then it's fine. Do you think you were unnecessarily harsh or was it fairly appropriate? I wasn't there so I can't tell. =P
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If you only spoke the through, leave her some time to think about all of this. The ball is now in her court. I assume your husband knew about the "history" behind all this and has seen it coming a long time ago with either helping or interfering (depend how you feel about it). Sometime, the best way to find a solution is to let people know what the problem is in the first place.
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William Blake said, "A truth that's told with bad intent Beats any lie you can invent." And there's a lot of truth in THAT, too. I suspect that if you think you should feel bad, then you're right about that, and you may owe her an apology -- even if all you did was speak "the truth." But there's objective truth and subjective truth, and your subjective truths may differ greatly. That may require some compromise on both sides, but apparently it is long-overdue compromise. Hopefully you can repair the rift, with your husband (taking your side when he thinks you're right!) acting as a mediator, and not being a totally disinterested party. So you need to enlist him first, and make sure he's in your camp -- and that he lets you know in advance where he thinks you might actually be wrong, and he can't just pretend otherwise. So you have to do some politicking before you begin "final negotiations" on how the new relationship with your MIL will work out. But if you think you owe her an apology, deliver that soon; the sooner, the better.
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you should feel a little bad, not for speaking the truth but for your husband who will take the heat. Oh well, too late now, at least look sad!
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