First, recognize that the root of the situation is that you have differing expectations from the relationship. You expect her to be more available to spend time with you. She apparently expects to have time to spend with her friends. There's no "right" or "wrong" about it, on either side. Instead, the thing to do is make sure you understand each other's desires and priorities in the relationship, and then see if you can work out a mutually satisfactory compromise. So the way to talk to her is as a partner trying to work out a win-win situation. First you'll need to define the issue in a non-judgemental way. WRONG: You shouldn't spent so much time with your friends, you should spend time with me! RIGHT: I can understand your wanting to spend time with your friends, but when you spend more time with them than with me, I feel (fill in the blank). And I'd like you to spend more time with me. And then work together to try to find a solution you can both live with. Remember that it's not a confrontation, and there isn't going to be "a" winner. It's two people working together to improve their relationship, and you should BOTH be "winners" when you're done talking. Be sure you're not expecting her to spend all her free time with you. Both of you need to have outside friendships and spend time with other people. A relationship where the couple spends all their time together is usually as unbalanced and unhealthy as a relationship where the couple spends almost no time together. Try to find the balance that will keep all both of you AND the relationship healthy and happy. By the way, your willness to talk with her about it is outstanding. I know a LOT of women who wish their guys would talk with them.