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by Anonymous on March 28th, 2007

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Should a parent that has 5 children , be shunned for sending their oldest child to live with the other parent . If that child can't follow rules and is disrespectful to parents and to younger siblings ? And sometimes has violent episodes?

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  • by annjjones on March 28th, 2007

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    i have 5 sons, my second eldest did go to stay with his dad for a few months as he was very disrespectful to me & my ex partner. after a few months he asked to come back , what a change there was in him, he was loads better, he`s nearly 22 now & his partner is due their baby in april, he lives close by & we get on fantastic, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

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  • by Anon on March 28th, 2007

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    Absolutely not. It is your decision and the other parent should have just as much responsibility to deal with the issues that are at hand. After all, it took those two people to make the child.. thus sharing the responsibilities is okay. Mind you, it would be a good time to look at your parenting skills and see why the child is acting up like that. Maybe it's puberty or something at school. You might not be the best parent, but the fact is, lots of parents make mistakes. If you can sleep at night.. and still send your child away, I guess there is nothing wrong with it. And after all, who says it should be public? To be shunned requires the topic to be known. It can be hush hush.

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  • by tomsims on March 28th, 2007

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    I am not in favor of shunning people. I assume that the parents sat down and made a decision that they believed was in the best interest of the child. If not, shunning certainly won't help.

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  • by Mister Sister on March 28th, 2007

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    Yes. You're shunning your child after all. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Why do you feel it's necessary to isolate the elder from the others? Will you do the same when the youger kids grow up and become too much of a challenge? you need to find a way to make the older child feel that their age and experience are valuable to you in bringing up the other kids. When that child feels needed and not just in the way, they will act to curb their disagreeable behavior to be looked up to as a role model and Mom or Dad's special helper.

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  • by A on March 29th, 2011

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    In my opinion, no. If that's what the child needs, that's what the child needs. Five children are a lot of children to take care of and it can be quite stressful to take care of that many children with one who is intentionally making life difficult for everyone else. I do wonder if there is something else going on, though. Perhaps the other parent can find out when the child is away from the other siblings and that can be worked on before he or she returns (if he or she ever does).

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