Parents want me and dd to come to my dad's 65th birthday party but don't want my S.O. to come, even though it's 4 years after I split with my exhub and 3+ years into my new relationship. They claim they are not ready. I politely declined. Am I wrong?
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debsmooth
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Seems 3+ years was plenty of time for them to get to know your S.O, so I'm confused about that. You can delcine, but then they might start declining to come your events. Doesn't set a good precedent.
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My mom's motto is.When it comes to family gatherings.All s/o's are invited.If you invite 1 you have to invite them all.
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This is a tough one! Go ahead and go to the party - by yourself - even if it's just to make a brief appearance! Soon after the anniversary invite your parents out for dinner with you and your S.O. If they won't, try to let it go. We can't let our parents live our lives for us, no more than we can live their lives. Good luck!!
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No you are not wrong at all. They are out of line telling you that your S/O can't come.
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I would have done what you did (whether or not it's "wrong"). It's too bad your family can't find a way to accept your partner.
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I think you should go by yourself. This is your family, you should be there,Im sure you dont want to strain that relationship(afterall,family will be there for you when all else is gone...sometimes)! You dont have to be with your s/o all the time... after the party, go back to your own life, but dont burn bridges with your family. No matter how hard the may be to deal with at times! I hope you enjoy!
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