How do i gain my confedence back? i use to get made fun of alot by "freinds" and my step mom so my self esteem isnt the highest.
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firgie
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True friends don't make fun of you. Ditch them and make some who appreciate you. Also, remember people who make fun of others do it because of their own inadequacy and insecurities.
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Circle the wagons with people who know you and you trust. I think you are smart enough to realize people need targets in life to make themselves feel superior. Some are just plain sick in the head. You know the things in life you are good at and make you smile...embrace those things and don't let go no matter how hard others try to take you down. All else fails start Kicking some @$$.
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It seems like you have been surrounded by a bunch of people that are not your true friends. “Thetruth” is right, friends don’t make fun of you unless they let you make fun of them as well. You need to remember the only opinion that counts is your own. As long as you are not being a menace, creating havoc, or disrespecting people you should look at yourself and see if you are happy with what you see. That is all that counts. That is what I do. It may be hard a first because you continue to wonder what others think….but it really does not matter. You are the one that has to lay your head down to sleep every night and fall to sleep with a clear conscience and respect for yourself.
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Think about all the good qualities about every aspect of who you are. Everyone is unique and incredible in their own way. & if there are things that you dislike about yourself, change them. If none of these suggestions work then watch some of the shows on TLC or something. Maybe the one on dwarfs or the one on the man with a tumor in his face. If that doesn't do anything for you then I don't know what will. & Sometimes it's the most insecure people that are the ones trying beat down everyone else. Don't take it personally you're the only one who knows exactly who you are. You can't let anyone else tell you differently.
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Dump the old "friends" they are useless and not real friends! Make a list of every possible success you can think of...even if you are kinda young, there are more of them than you might imagine. Can you cook (feed yourself something you make that tastes good?) Do you give in to saying hateful things to others? (bet not..!) Are you good at something..anything? Would you be willing to help someone, if you could? Consider volunteering! Pick something you care about, people, kids, elders, soup kitchen, animals, the environment...there are many different types of groups who really need volunteers. What do you get out of it? Well, you WILL feel better about yourself, for doing a kind thing to help someone. You will meet NEW PEOPLE who may become friends... and these NEW FRIENDS...will be people who, like you, are willing to think of someone besides themselves, and who also care about something that MATTERS to you!
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Get new "friends", stay away from your step mother and take a course in English.
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Some people only require self assurance. Such as looking in a mirror and telling yourself you're great. For myself, I used to have confidence problems, and to some extent I'm sure I still do just not as noticeably, but the way I gained confidence came by way of realization. I recognized that everything I go through, everybody else has gone through in some way or another and it's just my perspective that's making things seem worse. I'm no better or worse than anybody else, in terms of human life value and not money. I constantly make a conscientious effort to adhere to my code of ethics and try to be as humble as possible. I have no desire to hurt anyone else's feelings so I started to realize that everybody has a perception, whether good or bad, about everything. You aren't going to be able to control other's opinions of yourself, so just try to be the best human being you know how to be. At least that way, even if people don't like the way you do things, you know you've at least stuck to your beliefs. +3
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I never had any. Rather than be ridiculed for social awkwardness, I just turned my back on all social situations. Better lonely than abused. +2
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