My girlfriend looks at other guys and says stuff like, "hes hot," or "oh, hes pretty cute" and i dont think that she expects me to say anything about it.
but if i say, "oh wow, shes pretty," or "shes kinda hot," i get bitched at. how do i deal with this?
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TheConfusedOne
ANSWERS: 5
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Sounds pretty one sided! There may be a slight variation of how you say it or what you are doing that inclines her to have issue but, it still sounds unfair. My advice: talk to her about it being unfair. If she doesn't agree that it is unfair then don't put up with her commenting about men. If you can't comment about other women in front of her then she should not be allowed to comment about other men in front of you (even if it doesn't bother you). When she does it in front of you again, let her know that it's not appropriate. If you two can get to the point where you both don't get jealous when you take in some 'eye candy' try to affirm your commitment to each other also. My bf and I often comment with something along the lines of "looks great but I'd rather have you in my arms" when we are checking out someone else for too long. It's easy to get jealous and easy to feel insecure when the one you love looks hungrily at another, it's reassuring to hear that one affirm their love for you and eyes only adoration of the 'other'.
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Have you tried saying "I was just giving you a taste of your own medicine!"?
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Just ask her straight out. "So how come it's okay for you to do that but not me??!"
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I would point out a hot girl the minute she points out an attractive guy. That'd hopefully put her on the spot :P
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Your both just winding each other up! why would you do that? I can see that your feeling its double standards but the truth is it really bothers her obviously more than it does you, so just both agree to keep those thoughts in your own heads!
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