Most women have been "programmed" by family, friends, school, church, and society in general about what "good girls" DO - and DON'T do ! It's a shame that women are made to feel "guilty" if they engage in sexual activity beyond what's been "programmed" ! It is MY hope that women find a way to "de-program" themselves - allow themselves the opportunity to explore their sexuality free of inhibitions imposed upon them by society - and allow themselves to experience ANY sexual desires they have or explore ANY of their sexual fantasies ! Just HOW to get them to that place I don't know but I suspect it could take some women YEARS to shed their inhibitions enough to actually allow themselves to succumb to their sexual desires and explore their sexual fantasies. That's really MORE than a shame - it seems almost criminal !

Give her time, dont rush it, I think its going to happen for both of you...Are you bisexual male? Tell her it turns you on and tell her the benefit of another man in bed for her....She will be sexual satified...If I could have two dream men I would..

Thanks Catherine for your response ! I truly appreciate another woman's viewpoint ! There are several things I'd like to respond to about your comments - first of all you don't mention your age but in MY opinion it's NEVER too late to catch up on whatever you might have "missed out on" ! It sounds like you now realize you were "programmed that sex is not good" and you might be able to get PAST that "programming" at THIS point and actually ALLOW yourself to ENJOY engaging in sexual activity that APPEALS to you without any of that "programmed guilt" ! GOOD for YOU ! As far as the REST of your comment - I really HAVE tried to "give her time" - we've been together eleven and a half years - I told her about my "fantasy" over TEN years ago because I wanted her to KNOW about it BEFORE we got married five and a half years ago ! ( We've been "SIMULATING" it pretty regularly for over the ten years now. ) The TOUGHEST part of it for me is that she really gets INTO the "simulation" using her dildo ( I do TOO, of course ! ) and I truly believe she'd enjoy an actual encounter ! She just can't seem to get past that "programming" and allow herself to explore the REALITY of a threesome ! It's a shame that the "programming" has to get in the way of an enjoyable experience for BOTH of us ! I wish I could be as optimistic as YOU are about thinking "its going to happen" for "us" ( I want that a LOT ! ) but I'm almost to the point of asking her if I can seek out another married couple receptive to the idea. I wouldn't "cheat" on her - I love her WAY too much for that - but IF she can't get past her "programming" I think she MIGHT be willing to allow me to fulfill the fantasy with another couple - MAYBE she'd even be willing to "watch" - which, of course, would allow her an opportunity to join in if she decided she WANTED to ! As for if I am a "bisexual male" I don't REALLY know - I've never actually HAD a bisexual encounter - only the FANTASY ! ( In my experience sometimes reality can be just as good or BETTER than the fantasy - sometimes it's just NOT ! ) I do know that I would ONLY be ORALLY Bi - no other form of male / male contact appeals to me at ALL ! ( I would NOT be interested in any male / male touching, kissing, caressing, or any form of anal sex - either giving as a "top" or recieving as a "bottom". In fact ORALLY pleasuring a guy ONLY appeals to me with the thought of my wife being there WITH me joining in as we orally pleasure him together ! ) I know I enjoy kissing her after she's gone down on me ( we BOTH are VERY aware of the "cock taste" when we kiss after she has ) - I enjoy the 69 position with her on all fours - her orally pleasuring me as we "simulate" another guy "doing her" doggie style and I lick and suck her clit for her additional pleasure as she's "getting it" ( which, by the way, makes for a great VIEW ! I am RIGHT THERE - to SEE him as he penetrates her - AND to sneak in a lick or two on HIM ! ) - AND I have even gotten to the place that I enjoy our "cum kisses" - SHE started THAT one ! ( She "surprised me" one night after a blow job to completion - instead of depositing the majority of the cum on my stomach as she USUALLY did she held it ALL in her mouth and came up to kiss me. I was totally "surprised" - I did TRY to give her a light peck on the lips - but she FORCED my mouth open with her tongue and FORCED a French kiss ! Although it caught me COMPLETELY off guard and I can't say I really LIKED it at first we have now PREFECTED it - for HER pleasure because SHE enjoys it so much - and we now pretty often engage in some VERY passionate French "cum kisses" ! ) I just know I have gotten to the place where I just HAVE to TRY it - it has become one of those "before I die I have to try" kinda things - first on MY "Bucket List" ! ( I guess maybe that means it's gone beyond a fantasy and is now more of an obsession ! ) I have TOLD her it turns me on ( and from her reactions when we "simulate" a bisexual threesome it obviously turns HER on TOO ! ) - and I have made it CLEAR that I would make sure SHE was the "center of attention" ! I'd make sure we BOTH focused on HER pleasure to MAXIMIZE the "benefit of another man in bed with her" - and she will DEFINTELY be "sexually satisfied" - hopefully MULTIPLE times ! ( I would even make MY interest of assisting her in orally pleasuring the other guy not as important as making sure SHE gets pleasured ! ) I think she BELEIVES that I would make HER pleasure the PRIORITY - it's that "good girl - bad girl" thing ! ( I've TOLD her that her perception of "bad girls" are the ones who have all the FUN and she ought to TRY being a "bad girl" sometime ! ) Finally I'm glad YOU seem to be able get past YOUR "programming" ! ( That comment that "If I could have two dream men I would" is a pretty good indication you've found a way to "de-program" yourself and allow yourself to engage in an activity simply for your own sexual pleasure ! ( I assume that also means you wouldn't object to either one - or BOTH of the guys orally pleasuring the OTHER guy as long as YOU were being fully pleasured and completely satisfied sexually during the encounter ! ) I can only HOPE my wife becomes able to allow herself that same freedom to cross that "programmed boundary" and release her inner passionate desires - what SHE calls her "wild animal sexual instinct" - and enjoy the pure and simple sexual pleasure we BOTH fantasize about during our bisexual threesome "simulations" ! ( Sorry this got so long - I guess I had a lot to say ! )