The best thing to do is to give yourselves some time apart. Time heals all wounds and it will allow you to begin the grieving process. I would recomend not seeing him or talking to him for at least a week, maybe more. That will also allow him time to consider what he is doing too. Maybe he will reconsider, if not then move on. Find somebody that can cherish you for who you are and make the commitment you need. Also consider what warning signs you may have had and what else could have gone wrong, thus helping you to avoid making the same mistakes again.

Been there. I still loved him dearly and we still hung out a lot. It hurt so bad everytime I had to leave. If he doesnt want a relationship my advice would be to leave him alone unless you can handle just being friends. I couldnt. Best of luck to you :)

You'll get through this... You need some time away from him to think about things on your own and to be strong enough to heal yourself... you need to become your own person again. Lean on your girlfriends or your family for support, because support from him will make you miss the way things used to be, and right now that's what you need to keep your mind off of.

I know it's tough, but remember you don't owe him anything. I don't mean that in a bitter fashion, just that if you need your space you need your space. Many people recommend no contact for like 6-12 months but I say work what you can handle. If you feel pain, then cross it off the list until you're ready. Remember, you just put a lot of your time and energy into him. It's time to put it into yourself.

Hi I am in your situation now. How did you handle it at the time, did you keep in contact or did you break contact for a while? And were you able to be friends afterwards? Mine was also for a year. Thanks.

I am sorry, I know this is difficult for you. You still love him so I would give him some space. If you are with him all the time, your feelings for him will not go away and it will be hard if he ends up dating someone else.

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Sounds like he knows that you don't have to buy the cow if the milk is free. It seems to work for me too.

He sounds like a player. Is that what you want? He is not ready to settle down with all that is out there. He does not seem to care about broken hearts either. All yours. +5