It's possible to forget how to love. It's possible to love someone but be unable to show it. Love ebbs and flows in a long term relationship, but a year of being angry and demanding and refusing to get help is TOO LONG. You might be able to fix it together with therapy, if he were willing, but I'm worried about your son. Why break your son so he later has to go through heartache and unhappiness and then therapy too? You are teaching him how to be - your husband is teaching him how to be, too. Why not just leave before it's too late to save your son? Find a partner who can show love to both of you? There's no downside.

You can but you will both have to work at it. It can not be one sided. If he won't get help then it could be difficult to make things work.

its very hard to break up with someone you care that deeply about, but yes there is always someone else, more then likely in your case probably someone better. Your situation does not sound good and you need to decide if you want to be around this for the rest of your life. I would hope you have tried talking to him and telling him how you truly feel or mabye even had some counseling, if all this has failed you need to make a choice. Yes you can find someone else that makes you feel good and fall in love again.

after reading stories about how you're husband won't stand up for you after your humiliation from his friend makes that possibility.............difficult <hang in there>

No...not like that... If they dont show love for your son, how are you in love with them?...your not, your comfertable with them and dont want to be alone so theyre the next best deal... For the moment focus on your son. Demand, anger, and no love is no relationship to be in... your son comes first. ...FIRST. Even before you.

I believe it is possible but both parties must understand that their is a definite concern that needs mending. If only one party has to accept everything and continue to feel empty it will not work. He needs to be able to 'see' what he is doing to you and your son. If he doesn't care about the negative role model he is being for your son then their is a definite problem. He needs to be able to understand what his actions are causing and if he does and does not care then you have to make the most difficult decision in your life. Whether to stay or go. I understand how you feel in respect to maybe never finding anyone who cares (I feel that way lots of times in my life-I may just be wired strangely or expect too much) I have known you for a long time Rysmom and have had nothing but respect for your virtue and morals as it appears that our pasts may be very similar. I honestly wish I were much closer and could give you the support you need. You are very beautiful on the inside and out and have NO doubt that there is someone who will adore you. My marriage always seems to be rocky and I have issues with my wife as she has issue with me being what she calls 'perfect'. It is a lot harder for a man to find someone than it is for a woman, I believe, and honestly think, that any man would jump at the chance to go out with you (you may have to weed through some players who are looking just to mess around-which you don't need) to find a respectable man but you (at least im my eyes) are a very respectful, moralistic, beautiful person on the inside and I really can't comment on your physical beauty as I can only see your face and shoulders, but if that is an idication of the rest..WOW!.... I apologize for not recognizing your need earlier but I haven't been on for a while and have been very busy with work and school and extracurricular activities. I will try to check back more frequently. In case you need it, you have my email address (it's in my bio). q:) It is Saturday morning here and as I try to get motivated to get all of my work done ( I have many hours of homework) I will also be thinking of and feeling your pain (pain sucks doesn't it) Don't give up damn it! Please email for any support or if you just want to chat with someone neutral. you are one of a short list of people whom I find very attractive inside and out. there are less than a handful of people on AB that I would say that I care for (due to learnign about you from your responses, and in my book you are quite respected! q:)

Of course its possible to fall in love with someone again. But this person is not deserving of anything right now. I would talk to him about getting counseling for you both and your son and if he refuses, move on.