Is being selfish always such a bad thing?
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Jadey - Vive la difference
ANSWERS: 18
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No it's not. Sometimes you have to be selfish. If you are always giving to other people's emotional and physical needs then you will get burned out. You have to take care of "me" sometimes and not everyone else. Some people will take all your money, all your emotions, all your time and then where are you?
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I wouldn't say that it's always a bad thing. Sometimes you have to be selfish for yourself or you find yourself doing things for everyone and that's not always good.
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no it is not.. i gave my love freely for to long.. i am selfish with it as far as s/o go. i still give love ya's just not the i love you. i feel there is a distinct difference. +5
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It is always a bad thing for others point of view.+4
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In a relaationship it is ALWAYS a bad thing.
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In a relationship, I think it is. Best results come from both people looking to meet the other's needs.
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No. Particularly if your the type who does a lot for other people.
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No. It's great most of the time. Nobody will take care of You, if You don't. And if You can't take care of Yourself, You won't have anything to give.
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For me , yes.
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Depends. If society is selfish, you need to be selfish too or else you won't survive or get what you want/need.
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Not always. Self-preservation is an important survival skill. For instance, it may be unselfish to let someone else have the job you want, but if you are unemployed and need the money, then you should put your self-interests first and apply for the job. Of course, selfishness can be taken to extremes, and it's most harmful if you take it to such extremes that you don't practice the principle of reciprocity in your interpersonal relationships.
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Today I should have been more selfish!!!
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I think yes, I think the people who give are the best people ever and they always loved by others but don't be folish in giving ,be wise so that no one can use this in a bad way . Try to treat the both kinds of people no thing is better than experience .Don't give to your limits exept for your family .Good Luck;D
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Being selfish is never a good quality but sometimes we need to think about ourselves first. I have spent most of life being a very giving person that it has hurt me at times so sometimes I feel that it's okay to be selfish depending on what it is.
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The economists will tell you we have no choice--we're always and only selfish. When we do something that seems selfless, we do it for the kickback (whether that be love or attention or even just a tax break). I disagree. I've witnessed true altruism and I find it's part of what makes humanity so beautiful--and so tragic when it's NOT beautiful. But, to answer the question, I admit there must be a balance. Even if you only purpose in life is to serve others, one MUST take care of oneself, if only to make oneself a better servant. But in that case, it's hard to call "taking care of yourself" selfish at all--so perhaps it depends on one's underlying intentions.
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If you accept the following definition: "Selfish: Concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure at the expense of consideration for others." Personally, I don't see much good in that...and it's just not my nature. Furthermore, and again personally, I prefer to develop and improve upon my own standards of altruism, which is selfish in and of itself. Self-interest motivation comes easily and naturally to us all...too much so, IMO. +5 TELLING NOTE: If certain ABer's weren't so inconsiderate, lazy and, yes, selfish, you should probably have perhaps at least twice the number of rating points applied to your question as you do now.
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Read Ayn Rand's "The Virtue of Selfishness" before you make up your mind.
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genuine selfishness is always bad. However, there are millions of actions that are accused of being selfish actions that really arent selfish. Wives get accused of selfishness for not letting thier husbands cheat. SOME husbands get accused of selfishness for playing a video game.
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