Single women, this is for you.
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I am an ordinary guy, and as such I am nearly invisible to you when selecting a companion. It was not my intention "to be" invisible, I am hyper-confident, bold, outgoing and genial.
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Why am I missing out on romance.
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Macmedic and yet ... here I am
ANSWERS: 8
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i can't tell you why. i can tell you that you might think you have those qualities, but women might see something completely different. i know a single guy who describes himself as easy going, witty, & outgoing when in reality he is lazy, crude, & obnoxious. it's all about perception. you have to give a little as well. don't leave it up to the woman to make all the moves. go up to her, introduce yourself, try to find some common ground. love isn't as difficult as people make it out to be.
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Do you look like zarkin's avatar? Do you have a job and money?
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too self centered and bold, prideful....
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I don't know for sure but in your question it seems like you expect women to come knocking at your door and beg you to date them or something. As if they are the ones who should pursue you. Well nope. That's not how it is for "ordinary" guys.
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Maybe we're just not interested in you. I don't see any reason to be attracted to you based on your question. If the feelings are mutual, that's fine. It's just, it's one thing to compliment yourself. It's another thing for someone else to see those qualities in you, notice them aloud, and appreciate them out of their own freewill.
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I don't know....how bout tryin for just some fun dates...not romance..
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I'm not single, but I'm going with it anyway. Are you just hanging about waiting to be selected?
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Women, in general, are attracted by three things: 1) Social status (sometimes equates to wealth, sometimes not) 2) Height 3) Looks You have already said that you are an 'ordinary' guy. This indicates that you perceive yourself (correctly or not) as not having exceptional social status or exceptional looks. What about the height thing? (Are you below 6'? If so, that may be part of your struggles). As for the boldness and confidence thing, your self-perception about your confidence and boldness may be accurate, but it is also irrelevant. Women are attracted to a particular kind of 'confidence' that is really just a proxy for social status, and has little to do with your own perceptions of your confidence level. If you lack this social status marker, then 'outgoing' translates as 'obnoxious' and 'genial' translates as 'pushover'. Finally, take any advice you receive from women on this question with a grain of salt. Attraction is a largely subconscious function, and our conscious explanations of it are often completely inaccurate. http://www.nerve.com/screeningroom/books/thestorytellingproblem/
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