Im am a junior in high school and during lunch I hide in the bathroom,Im too scared to go into the lunch room and talk to people because Im afraid that if I can't find anyone to talk to,I'll be all by myself. I don't know what to do anymore,any advice?
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Crystal
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Isolating yourself guarantees that you will be by yourself. You should at least give the lunchroom a try. The chances are very good that you will indeed find someone to talk to. Best way to do it is introduce yourself by name to a stranger, or greet an aquaintance by name. Ask a question about them. Most people enjoy talking about themselves.
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Bring a book or your MP3 player so that if you end up sitting by yourself, you will be entertained. In this way it will look like you chose to sit by yourself. And those of us who are older can verify, nothing makes someone a target to be interrupted as someone who is wrapped up in a book or music. lol I bet you will have others joining you soon enough. You also need to learn to be comfortable with your own company. Sometimes this is the smartest, most brilliant person around! Why settle for less? :)
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Well... who is with you in the bathroom? You're all by yourself in there, are you not? How is being all by yourself in the lunch room any different? At least there you may have the chance of finding friends.
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Confidence attracts people, if you walk in with your head held high and be proud of who you are people are going to see that and want to associate themselves with you. The most important thing you can never do is worry about what someone else might be thinking. Learning how to be confident and not going overboard with it will bring you success in anything you do!! Print this and read it every day before lunch!!
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I never found the bathroom a safe place to hide when I was in High School.
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you need to be comfortable being by yourself ... bc when its all said and done, you are the only person you will ever be with your entire life ... other friends and people will come and go ... i promise, you become comfortable in your own skin, happy with being who you are, then you will never be alone and you will be surrounded by friends ... and the #1 way to have friends is to be a friend ... don't want for them to come to you ...
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first,you are in the bathroom I am pretty sure that that looks worse than a guy sitting alone in the cafeteria. Second, you have to learn how to just not care what people think, and I know that it is way harder than it sounds, but that is the only way that I was able to get through school. once I started not caring what everyone thought then I started talking to even more people where as my wife was shy all the way through school and hated where as I loved it.
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whats wrong with sitting alone? if you want to be a sheep and blend in then just do it. if you want to be who you are, sit alone. simple mate. its odd how in this day its great to be different, but only in an accepted way...
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That's some nasty anxiety you've got there. Some would recommend that you see a shrink and get a few meds to try to deal with that, but I've never been a fan of such patchwork solutions. Accept that it scares you, and confront it. If you can't find anyone to talk to, accept it. This sounds like worn out parental advice, but it has been used for generations for a reason. As soon as you confront something that scares you, you'll wonder why you were ever scared in the first place. This is only high school, and although the pressures and anxieties you feel are very real, there is nothing real about high school at all. It's a game, and it ends.
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Stop thinking everybody is looking at you. Like you are only worrying about yourself so are they. They do not care where you sit or if you sit there at all. Just go in find yourself a place, maybe listen to music. (Always helps for me.) Just do it one time and you will know what it is like, therefore you will be able to anticipate and no longer have to be scared of that situation. I have the same thing too, only with grocery stores. The longer I wait the scarier it gets in the end I will not be able to move my feet and refuse to go. Now I just force myself, because of that one time I tried I now know that in the end it is not scary at all. No one looks at me. No one cares. I just do my shopping and if someone talks to me I answer back. I know you can do it! Just try once and give it all you got, it will be a lifechanger!
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