My girlfriend told me she fantasies about being raped....Is this some kind of condition I should be aware of?... what should i do..?.(serious answers pls).
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Rape fantasies are quite common, they are nothing like the real experience of being raped. they dont mean she really wants to be raped. It probably means she would like (sometimes) to have a little compulsion to obey and let you do as you like within boundaries.To have responsibility taken from her. Talk to her about it and see if she wants to try a role play of the scenario., Agree very careful rules about what is and is not acceptable to her. Ask her to pick a word that she can say that will mean you stop immediately if she says it (safe word) Do stop immediately if she says it or you will destroy all her trust. She may not trust you enough yet anyway. I would steer clear of any tying up at this stage. let her become more trusting of you.
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Rape fantasy is not so unusual; it's quite common in young women from late teenage through about age thirty. Rape fantasy is a way of handling sexual guilt --- of expressing sexual desire without responsibility. The normal female role is that of submission to a larger, stronger male to whom she desires to give herself. If she has been taught to restrain her sexual urges, as most girls have been, it relieves her of any guilt or responsibility. But that does not mean she WANTS to be raped --- forced by violence. I suspect your girl is hinting,, whether she knows it or not, that she wants you to take the dominant role in initiating sex and in lovemaking. If she has to tell you that, it spoils the whole encounter. Remember the scene in Gone With The Wind, where Rhett grabbed Scarlett, carried her upstairs, and shagged her brains out. The next morning she looked like a cat who had drunk a pint of cream. Again, that does not mean she wants to be raped.
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