Send her this: Not knowing the specific reasons for their decision to get a divorce, trying to tell you what to do, would be difficult in the least. However, perhaps you can educate them a little on the damage done to children because of a divorce. Yes, even parents need to be taught lessens, so let’s start with this: "We know that children of divorced parents have more emotional and behavioral problems and do less well in school than children who live with both their Parent." Divorce, Nontraditional Families, and Its Consequences for Children Stanford University, California http://www.stanford.edu/~rmahony/Divorce.html “Georgia Supreme Court Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears has noted, children born to unmarried women and to those in cohabiting relationships “must often overcome increased risks of poverty, education failure, child abuse, delinquency, emotional distress and mental illness.”…….the lack of a father’s guidance in children’s lives is a major cause of their suffering. “Marriage is the best child welfare, crime prevention, anti-poverty program we have,” All Children Deserve Two Parents The Herald-Gazette, Georgia http://www.barnesville.com/archives/266-gem-from-jim-octuplets.....html http://tinyurl.com/ChildrenDeserve2Parents “Ominously, the most reliable predictor of crime is neither poverty nor race but growing up fatherless.” Fatherless Families & Crime Fortune Magazine http://money.cnn.com/magazines/fortune/fortune_archive/1992/08/10/76732/index.htm If you have the money, you might want to buy one or more of these books to give your parents, or just give them the list: 10 Stupid Things Couples do to Mess up Their Relationships http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Ten-Stupid-Things-Couples-do-to-Mess-up-Their-Relationships/Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780060512606/?itm=7 10 Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Ten-Stupid-Things-Men-Do-to-Mess-Up-Their-Lives/Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780641865411/?itm=8 10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess up Their Lives http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Ten-Stupid-Things-Women-Do-to-Mess-up-Their-Lives/Dr-Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780060976491/?itm=3 Stop Whining, Start Living http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Stop-Whining-Start-Living/Dr-Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780060838331/?itm=2 Stupid Things Parents Do to Mess Up Their Kids http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Stupid-Things-Parents-Do-to-Mess-Up-Their-Kids/Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780060933791/?itm=12 The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage http://search.barnesandnoble.com/The-Proper-Care-and-Feeding-of-Marriage/Dr-Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780061142826/?itm=4 Woman Power: Transform Your Man, Your Marriage, Your Life http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Woman-Power/Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780641817847/?itm=6 If your parents are intent on this, than consider asking for Joint Custody of them, rather than the other way around, or worse, living with on parent, while “visiting”. Instead of “LIVING” or “Visiting” one of them, they can LIVE WITH YOU, and your siblings. You remain in the home, and each parent can live there for three weeks, than switch. Once a week, the parent not in residence takes you and your siblings out for an evening to dinner, bowling, etc. While in resident, the parent does not date, nor have overnight guests, other than relatives. This includes after work drinks, or staying the night elsewhere, while you have a sitter. Other than going to work, their time in the home belongs to the children, solely. On the off weeks, the parent rents a room, stays with relatives or friends, or they can split the cost of a two-bedroom apartment that they share, with each having their own secured room. The priority here is that you, THE CHILDREN, not having your lives disrupted by the poor choices of your parents. Your parents' lives are equally disrupted, and they split the cost of being in the home, or a percentage, using child support guidelines as an example. If child support is ordered, both parents can pay into a Trust Fund that pays the household expenses, in accordance with Federal Regulations. Anything over and above those expenses remains in the fund to collect interest. It can be used in emergencies, and/or for college educations. You keep you own room, friends, and schools. There’s no shifting back and forth, packing bags, and making new friends. There are no arguments over not wanting to go visit the other parent, for the weekend, because you have a date, a school function, or some other event. In addition, less likelihood of either parent remarrying, having more children, or dealing with stepparents, stepsiblings, step grandparents, etc. Your parents remain dedicated to you. In the final sense, perhaps they will relearn what they once had, and why you exist. You could become the glue that puts the family back together. When you are grown, and completely out of the home, than the home (if owned) can be sold, or whatever the parents want to do with it. They can than move on with their lives to do whatever they want. This is called Bird Nest Custody. YOU, THE CHILDREN, REMAIN IN THE NEST, AND EACH OF THE PARENT BIRDS TAKE TURNS BEINGS THERE. http://tinyurl.com/GiveKidsAChoice

All you can do is to be there for her .... LISTEN when she talks and acknowledge her when she says something ... Let her know that you care about her and are there for her ..it will mean a lot ... +5

my parents resently divorced and it felt like nobody cared about us kids or me. i just wanted someone to love me and except me u know? give her love but also give her space and i agree u should give her some space. call her and ask how she is 1-3 times a week

Spend some time with her -- offer to take her out to dinner or out with friends. Don't bring up the divorce. She'll bring it up if she wants to talk about it, and if she does just listen. She might want to do something that will take her mind off of it.