You have to go. You will find strength to carry yourself through it.

It's okay to cry; the purpose of a memorial is for everyone to be able to get it over with. You will ultimately be much happier if you DO attend, and your grieving period will be shorter.

Go and speak from the heart if you don't morn the death you may regret it in the future they will be a lot of people feeling the same way who love this sole

I just had my grandfather pass on 1 week from today. Us 2 were very close expecially when I was little. He wuold always be there for all his family, he would give me rides when I was incapable...and was always there. I know 1 thing was he didnt want us to remember how he died, or focus on being sad...but yes, there is a mourning period...but all in the same, he said...remember my life, keep my memorie of what I did...Celebrate my life, and do not cry my death. I remembered that. The last thing a loved one wants is for us to be in incredibal pain over something that is inevitable for us all. You should go to the service as they speak of his life, of him...play his music, and have close ones speak of him. I know I did cry when I played "grandpa" by the judd woman...but I love that song, and it was tears of joy. Close your eyes, think good thoughts, remember their words, their face, thier smile...and smile. Its ok, and it will be ok. They want you to be ok. Crying is good, but dont focus on "the pain"...just...remember. And always smile. I do. Ive been thinking lately and the day after was up at 5:30 in the morning, went outside and watched the sunrise... in a way he was with me, as they are with you...in your heart, and always will be. The memory...the good memory. Its all about perspective...keep it positive. There is no room for the negative, the sadness, the what ifs...cuz its happened, the past is the past, focus on the future...and make them happy and proud.

I don't know if it's worry about "embarrassing" yourself by crying at the funeral but if it is: I am "that" person, the one who just can't help but be touched by the loss and have a sob escape during the funeral of even a "not-that-close-to-them" person. Despite my best attempts to have a stiff upper lip! It used to embarrass me. Then I asked myself what was so horrible about me feeling and expressing sadness openly? And if not at a funeral, then where? Go and don't worry about crying. There is comfort to be had in being surrounded by other people who cared for this person and are also having to say goodbye.

You need to go! It's no big deal if you cry - you won't be the only one hurting! Most importantly, remember that it's out of respect for the deceased and concern for his survivors that you will make this effort.

You might not even cry :) There might be such a warm atmosphere there that maybe you'll feel a sort of relief from going. I think if he was that close the family would love to see you there anyways, red blood shot eyes from tears or not, it'll be a reminder that he was important to more than his family

Go. You will regret it if you don't.