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by Violet on July 23rd, 2009
well don't expect any oral in return
by - MojoThunder - on August 11th, 2009
i'll be honest ... it's not that big a deal to me ... i'd much rather give than receive ... i would prefer a nice handy over a bj almost any day
by Riemann on July 23rd, 2009
Sexual compatibility is *extremely* important in a relationship, so make sure if you can't get past this that you find a guy for whom oral is truly not important.
Unfortunately our society makes people ashamed of their sexual desires, and so he may be willing to lie to himself and to you by saying that it isn't important, but problems will most definitely come up later.
Just look at the other answers given here to see what I am talking about. Many people imply that he is some kind of uncaring a-hole jerk if it is a deal breaker.
Don't ever be pressured in to doing something you don't like sexually. The best way to never be pressured into something you don't like to do is to find someone that you are compatible with in the first place.
by endowed - out on July 23rd, 2009
Oral sex is important to some people but not the glue that holds a relationship together. There comes a point in a relationship when you discuss expectations of sex. You'll find that talking about an issue with your loved one will usually help you or them overcome that issue, whether you choose to give oral or he chooses NOT to receive oral.
I prefer oral sex in a relationship. The decision factor with breaking up with one of my girlfriends was that she didn't like to give oral. There were other issues at hand, but given the circumstances, that was the deal breaker for me to determine that the relationship wasn't worth pursuing.
by Moongrim on July 23rd, 2009
You can't do it, you can't do it.
If it's something you can't face then the guy who can accept that is a keeper. And yes, I've met dudes who are turned off by the notion of his penis in a woman's mouth.
Or anyone else's for that matter.
Personally, I'd appreciate being told up front (before getting intimate, but not on the first date).
As to me, lack of BJ isn't a deal breaker when it comes to lovers, I'm sure other dudes would feel the same.
Have you explored WHY you react so?
by adirondackwannabe on August 20th, 2009
Interesting answers to your question. Personally I would say don't worry about it. Life is a lot more complex than one sex act. If you really dislike something and I try to make you do it, I'm the biggest idiot in the world and I'm going to lose in the long run. When it comes to sex I want you to enjoy every second, love everything we do, and be totally into everything. Look at your wording. Your thinking of nonsexual relationships? If I don't get a single blowjob, but you are so into our sex life that you're thinking of how you can't wait to rip my clothes off as soon as you see me how can I not come out ahead. (Bad pun sorry) And I would still give you all the oral sex you could take. Relationships are about thousands of things, not one sex act.
by knotcrafter@yahoo.com on July 27th, 2009
As for me personally...yes, it is really that important.
by robinhug on July 23rd, 2009
When your ready and if your ever ready you will know if and want to.
No one should have to do anything sexually they are not comfortable with.
I agree with you in your comments about not letting them do something they dont want.
If they really care about you, they will respect you anough to understand.
Hang in there!
One of these days it might not gross you out anymore and you'll be like... yeah baby! I want to drive him nuts! But untill then, Stick to your guns and only date guys that will respect your feelings!
Points given!
Robin
by D.J. on July 23rd, 2009
Don't worry about it. The man that is right for you won't care.
Out of curiosity...do you like to have your pussy licked? In other words, would you want a guy to lick your pussy, even though you wouldn't give him oral sex??
by Briguy26 on November 15th, 2010
Ok, this may be a deeper psychological disorder, you should see a shrink he may be able to help you. If you had a bad experience in the past giving a bj you may be subconsciously telling yourself that oral sex is a bad thing. Giving oral sex should be fun, why do you get sick from it? is it the taste? Is it the foreskin? Is it the cum? I like giving girls oral and they like giving me oral, I think if you do it out of love you will find it to be quite fun to work a man up like that and be in control of that part of his body, feeling it pulse in your mouth. Give it a try again and remember it is the ultimate thing a woman can do for a man. sex therapist can help and communicate with your partner.
by Hotboy95 on July 15th, 2010
Almost all men are going to want their girl to perform fellatio on them. There is an inherent need/drive within men to have a women suck your #&%! I have never met a guy who did not love fellatio, or require their female to perform it. No man will EVER! want to be with that type of women, and even if they get a man he will def. cheat on you and get fellatio from another women. Men will find a way to get them. The women who give fellatio are happy, have nice things, in healthy relationships, and their men sincerely love them. Common sense says try to do it anyway, or at least lick it or he will feel like your dissing him. As long as he doesn't cum in your mouth what the hell
by MicrocosmicOrbit on August 19th, 2009
Is your man clean? Is he making you choke on it? mabe he is too large and inconsiderate of this fact.
Mabe it's not that important. I have to say make sure when before you engage in a relationship. Get everything in the open so niether of you feels cheated in the expectation department.
You know not everyone requires as much sex. You can see from peoples awnsers here some are perfectly happy with abstinence. Furthermore they are not afraid to compel everyone to be the same.
by Anonymous on August 11th, 2009
I hate it too. I used to do it all of the time with my husband and loved doing it when I was younger. Now, I can't stand it and don't want to do it. My husband understands and won't force me to do anything I don't want to. I told him if it's that important to have a blowjob, he can let our gay friend do it. When he said the offer was sweet, he isn't gay or bi. I told him to close his eyes and he wouldn't know who sucked him.
by anemomylos on July 30th, 2009
Maybe you never found the right person to do it. I once had a girlfriend in her thirties who told me she did not like giving BJs until she met me... And considering how inexperienced she seemed in the beginning, I'inclined to believe her
by Jonathan on July 23rd, 2009
Tila, I would not take it to that extreme. If you are honest & up front with any man who really cares for you deeply (& that is the key word) it won't matter. The relationship can develop in many wonderful ways. I have been dating for some time and I know how difficult it is to find that 'special someone'. Don't think negatively or put yourself down. You will see who really cares and you will be fine. Good Luck! (((HUGS))) Your Friend, Jonathan +5
by Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot on July 23rd, 2009
My daughter hates them and doesn't do it either. I never had a problem but I don't even care about sex or relationships anymore, so don't go by me being a current expert, that's for sure. I have never had a desire for sex unless I was so totally in love and involved in a relationship that being all giving was a pleasure. There is too much obligatory sex these days, I don't get that. Like, "Hi we've been dating for a few seconds and you've taken me out to dinner so let's have at it. It don't work really well that way for me.
by Gone on July 23rd, 2009
I do..but I wouldnt ask for it. If the guy does it on his own and LIKES doing it, then I wouldnt tell him to stop ;-) But on the other hand, if I knew he didnt enjoy it and was trying to force himself to do it for my benefit, I would ask him to stop.
by PillowPants on July 23rd, 2009
No, it's not important. He'll cheat anyways(even if you did do it), so why trouble yourself?
by kiwisoccer on July 27th, 2009
So what about it grosses you out?
by ucflt09 on June 12th, 2010
Even if this were to be true, he would have a better chance of not cheating if he didn't have to go somewhere else for a BJ
Ladies, if you met a guy with a 7" tongue, and he begged you to facesit him, would you? And where would you want that tongue?
by Queeningboy69 on January 29th, 2012
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Ladies could you pick out your partner if u were blindfolde and could only suck his cock till he came? no touching otherwise.
by j4fun on January 31st, 2012
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Question for guys : Would you suck a cock?
by truthfollower on January 31st, 2012
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Ladies what is your favorite way to receive oral sex and why
by Robbie68 on January 29th, 2012
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When having sex, do you prefer oral before intercourse, or intercourse before oral? Sometimes? Always? Never? It depends?
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by Randy D on January 29th, 2012
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You're reading I can't give blow jobs. Ive tried but I am grossed out to the point of getting sick. It's gotten to the point where I consider never being in a sexual relationship again so that I dont feel like I have to do it. Is it really that important?
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Comments
well I didnt say I expected anything
by Gone on July 27th, 2009
ok, well, don't be surprised if she cheats on you, to get oral
by Violet on July 27th, 2009
thanks for your opinion
by Gone on July 27th, 2009
um, that wasn't a opinion. That was a possible and realistic outcome.
by Violet on July 27th, 2009
Lack of oral reciprocation can doom a sexual relationship.
What is it about oral sex that makes you so disgusted?
by digitamerxero on August 14th, 2009
me??
by Violet on August 14th, 2009
No, Violet, I was just late to the party and was defending your original answer =)
by digitamerxero on August 15th, 2009
oh thank you
by Violet on August 15th, 2009
Good answer Violet
by Larry on August 17th, 2009
OK well I guess I'll start working on becoming a nun :-/
by Gone on August 17th, 2009
There are other ways to play with each other
by Larry on August 17th, 2009
oh yeah i think i more than make up for it
by Gone on August 17th, 2009
When it comes to other ways to "make up for it", you do have the advantage over me
by Larry on August 17th, 2009