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Hardly gold-digger. She already knows you have no dependable long term income. She's letting you know that the door is open to moving in with her once you demonstrate that you will be at least self-supporting. She doesn't want you freeloading off her. And I can't imagine that anyone would blame her, either.
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I agree with Cyanotic Wasp, if she's already got a self-sustaining income it isn't gold digging. Gold digging would be her telling you to get a High paying job and a really big apartment so she can move in with you. She may even have had a bad past experiences with guys who move in with their SOs then get lazy [her own boyfriends or mom's boyfriends]. I'd be worried about the same thing, to tell the truth.
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That's reasonable but she needs to get her shit together also.
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No, this is not gold digging. Women like to know that there is security when they marry a man. Men get married for sex, women get married for security, companionship and other things. So, she wants to see if you can support her or at least be a constant, contributor in these hard times.
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In this particular case I don't believe it's gold digging. The way you worded it makes it sound like she would actually like to be with you again but is mature enough to realize a real relationship encompasses more than just emotions. She doesn't want to be saddled with someone who isn't going to contribute. Maybe it's time to put video games on the back burner (unless you have a real future in development).
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She probably thinks you should have a job ... that's not being a gold-digger, that's being realistic. Don't you want a job anyway?
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I don't think she's a gold-digger, she's just in a jam and she needs help getting out of it and she doesn't feel like struggling anymore. Personally, I would remain single since partnership/love/relationship is about helping one another. If she wanted you to have a steady job with a steady income, she should support you and help you find that, if that's what you want. Not break it off with you and let you sort it out yourself "and then" include her back in your life. Relationship isn't about when everything is great, the couples can be a couple...it's also about dealing with the bumps in the road "together".
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Dude, don't listen to ANY of the answers here. That girl is a manipulative harpy from the sounds of it. If she gave a crap about you, she would be doing more to help you out. Anyone that puts a dollar value on your being on a relationship with them is only out for their own interests. If she gave a crap about you, she would of kicked your ass to keep you in school. Leave that bitch. Besides, once you break off a relationship that goes for more then a couple months, the odds are heavily against getting back together and having it end in anyway other then failure. Ditch her, take it easy while you sort your stuff, get back in school, and then let a better one find you. Screw that bitch.
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I agree with Cyanotic Wasp and Follower of Christ.. All she wants is to know that you're going to be there for her in the future.. she wants a good life... really, honestly, sounds like she might want to marry you one day. you know she's had bad experiences with mom's boyfriends.. she wants more than that.
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it is RESPONSIBLE and ACCOUNTABLE 'talk....very reasonable and 'stable'.... and from your added comment..... you both should get working.....maybe she is working toward this and thinks you are not..... i think her problem stems more with you working 'temporary' jobs...
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reasonable... my wife's health caused me to carry her burden and being the only contributer to a relationship will destroy a person... now that she left me evidence of financial responsibility is a key factor in my search for my next wife.
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Awwrighty then! So you're the one with $13K in debt, a half year of job experience as a temporary game tester. She has a car and $1K of debt and a self-sustaining income. You want to know if SHE is the gold digger? Pot... kettle... black. Simple mathematics.
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Kind of sounds practical, or you might be the gold digger.
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