My sister is constatnly causing probs 4 me&just recently she made up an awful rummor about me that really hurt &was caught in a lie.This time Im not talking to her until she apologizes. Am I right?
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alkat10
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No. This is being passive-aggressive instead of pro-active. Ask for a meeting with your parent(s) and your sister to discuss the situation. Make sure you have prepared what you want to say, including how this makes you feel and the effects it is having on your life. Then your sister gets to explain her side. Ask your parent(s) to recommend specific actions that should be taken as a result of this conversation. [One action COULD be an apology.] It is only by confronting the behavior in a calm way, and getting her agreement, that you can ever get it to change. What you are doing now obviously isn't working. Try the suggestion above. Best of luck!
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I can certainly understand your resentment. But don't hold onto that. Resentment and hate eat up the vessel that contains them (you) and don't do a thing to harm the targets. Give this some time, and then try to forgive her; don't hold onto your bad feelings about this. But don't be stupid, either. There's nothing wrong with cutting someone out of your life who hurts you, especially when they do it intentionally. Just do that coldly and rationally, without rancor or bitterness: keep your distance from her.
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Weather or not she is your sister, if she is causing problems for you and your lovedones you need to remove her from your life. Don't let someones spite and hatred bring you down low. Just realise what she has become, and if she is unwilling to change, let her go.
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yes your right, i would do the same thing. i do think its a good idea to talk to her about it though ask her why shes behaving this way towards you, maybe after a long talk she will realise what she has been doing wrong and try to change her behaviour. good luck.xx
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May I ask what your ages are? Age plays an important role.
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Yup. You go girl! +3
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I would not let this go by. I don't know what the exchange is between you guys and usually it takes two to cause problems, so maybe you need an outside professional source to sort this one out. I could never forgive someone who acts like this if I tried to handle it on my own, because I wouldn't speak to her again.
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Not taking a stand as to whether you're wrong or right with that said I tell one of my stories that I am famously known for telling: . Having recently (4 months ago) lost my sister to her fight with bone cancer, her and I would have long drawn out fights, kick, bite and call each other names when we were younger. She said something to my then bf that I was dating other guys, I hated her for it (that sisterly kind of hate). A few days after that I said to myself "will it manner in 10 years".....Know what it didn't. I dont know what she said or did Darlin but I would give anything to have my sister here with me just so we could agrue and disagree...life is far to short. I hope you find your way and seek the answer from her you are looking for. I wish you well.
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Giving her the silent treatment is gonna show you're annoyed, but not about what. You need to speak to your sister and let her know that what she has done is totally unacceptable and has hurt you deeply. Tell her you cannot understand why she would do such a thing and that as sisters, you have to stick together. Basically i just think from personal experiance that your sister is at a stage where she feels that she lives in your shadow, she is likely jealous of you and by bitching about you she is making others believe that you are not such a nice person. It's a battleground at the moment, but things will change in time. Just let her know you love and care about her and you're always there for her.
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How old are both of you? If you both of you teenager or younger, then excuse each other this time, because it's vey common to have this kind of problems in every families. Give her a chance this time. If she does the same thing often and often then only take an action on her. Be peace both of you. If she younger then you, you have to excuse her and teach her not do again.
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