Oh my God this happens to me all the time! She just needs to become less friendly or be more aware of how her actions are effecting them. It takes practice and she has to be more observant.

This happened with a young woman at work (she's 19). She had regular "stalkers" - guys that would come by work and leave flowers on her car, or that would follow her home (to make sure nothing happened), etc. To get rid of the "stalkers", she acted as though she were in a lesbian relationship for a few months, and they started leaving her alone. She is now stalker free, and has been for about 8 months. It's kind of funny when you think about it. Most guys fantasize about 2 women being intimate. When it's even rumored to happen, they bolt. Oh well.

She's obviously enjoying the attention (no matter what she says) or she'd tell them to leave her alone.

I hate when people throw the word 'stalking' around like it was an everyday activity. Stalking is a crime, and is very different from unwanted attention. If she does not want the attention, she can as them to leave her alone, but I don't think this is really any of your business, unless she has asked for help.

Shes gotta be mean for once AND TELL THEM TO GO TAKE A HIKE. thats the only way to get through to horny men. and i guarantee you thats what it is.

Well, your question is a little confusing b/c y ou said she's getting stalked but they don't really stalk her. Sounds like they're really annoying her with their attention. If that's the case, she needs to make a clear and definitive statement that she is not interested in any type of communication with them whatsoever. She needs to say this directly, without being coy or trying to be "nice." Then, she needs to get a little notebook and document whenever one of them continues to try to communicate with her in an unwanted fashion. She should not respond. If the communication escalates to more serious behavior, she should contact the National Stalking Resource Center to talk with a stalking specialist to see if the behavior is becoming stalking. The Center is at http://www.ncvc.org/src/Main.aspx. P.S. Like YARNLADY said, stalking is a crime, not a mere annoyance. The crime of stalking is a little different from state to state, but basically most statutes say that the victim must be able to prove a pattern of repetitive behavior that constitutes harassment, intimidation or a credible threat of danger. A "credible threat" causes a reasonable person to be in fear for their life or the safety of his or her family.

Your friend is obviously deciving you. I have had friends like that, they claim that someone won't leave them alone and the truth is they have really have no intentions of letting that person go,they stil call them and lead them on and everything. 9times out of 10 thats what your friend is doing. Expecially if its more than one guy so called stalking her, thats what she wants you to believe, truth is that she is leading them to believe that they have a chance with her. if you want someone to leave you alone you can make them leave you alone and if you can't its time to call the cops.

If this is the same friend who is "too nice" to turn down dates I'm beginning to sense a pattern. If she doesn't want them following her around like she's a bitch in heat just tell them so-if they don't stop, get a peace bond against them. If she likes it tell her to shut the f**k up. Incidentally, it's dangerous to have a crowd following you around.