Why are there ABers that are just absolutely mean spirited? ( I guess I am naive but I am just simply a nice person that always tries to be nice to others. ) Any thoughts?
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firecracr
ANSWERS: 12
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its just how they are and what their personality is like
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I know, some are. And some are impatient "know-it-alls"...Ah, so what, just have fun! Points to you!
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I guess it is the same as the whole population, mostly good with a few bad eggs. Sometimes if I decide I don't like a fellow user's approach, I will just do my best not to have any contact in the future with them. I like to think the best of people as well, and it hurts when you realise someone is not that way. Just ignore the person who is bothering you, at least you can switch off for a while if you need to, and get away from it (to keep it in perspective!).
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Just like in real life there will always be people that are mean spirited and that you just can't get along with. Why would it be any different on AB? There are nice people out there and you just have to find them.
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i don't know, why are there people in society who are mean spirited? sorry to answer a question with a question, but i suspect they have the same answer. ps - i'm not sure if your perspective is a good or a bad thing, but i am guessing you are young. it seems to be easier to be jaded the older one gets. i find that if i am too nice, it seems to hurt me in the end, but being jaded seems to hurt in the meantime. i mean, it can't be good to be so jaded because while it may be realistic, it's also negative.
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I have crossed paths with one or two people here who have been bullies, mean-spirited, arrogant and nasty, but the biggest thing I noticed about them is how pathetic and immature they are. They might put on a big act and intimidate some people, but I'm afraid I see right through them for what they are, and I then decide to avoid those people at all costs. I really think that is all you can do - try and avoid them, and if they answer a question you asked, or comment an answer, if it's nasty, try and ignore it, or report it to AB Staff. Nobody should feel uncomfortable or threatened here, but I do think it also depends on how much you let it get to you. Some people are born shit stirrers, and they aren't happy unless they're upsetting someone or putting someone down, purely to try and inflate their own suffering ego's. Bit sad, really.
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It is quite true that some people are not as pleasant as they could be , that is multiplied when they come in groups. It is sad when it takes all the pleasure out of the site and makes you feel that everything you do is wrong. I guess some people are just that way and if things are not their way it is wrong. it is best to try to avoid them , but the falseness can be a hurtful situation
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AB pretty much reflects what you would find in the "real world" - nice people, indifferent people, moody people, mean spirited people, people with pain, people with mental illness, frauds, criminals, thoughtful people, stubborn people, courageous people. Just people.
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i know what you mean..ive come across and witnessed a few ABers who are mean-spirited..almost being a bully..ive ignored them before..and would suggest you leave em alone..obviously they have a huge chip on their shoulders, and dont mind taking out their frustration on others..i too am a nice person..ive made several friends here.."mean-spirited" people are turn-offs!
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Was somebody mean to you? Sorry to hear that if that is the case. I think, just like real life, certain people grate on each others nerves and sometimes they just don't get along. I have been around for 3 years and I have seen many AB'ers come and go and it is a mighty diverse group. Naturally, you aren't going to have a perfect AB Utopia I am sorry to say. AB wasn't always so, well, fluffy either. The questions required thought, research, and most older questions and answers are a labor of love for a lot of us old timers. They are overlooked and rarely rated by the Pepsi or Coke? What's you favorite shampoo? atmosphere that is visible today. I think it's a nice balance now that I am used to it, but a lot of people resist change :) I'd say most of us are pretty nice here. There are a few cantankerous types roaming around, but don't let it get to you. Just ignore it and move on.
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Well let's examine this a bit further, first let's identify a user. Say, Bam@cyberscrewed.tk. Why is he ocasionally mean spirited? Well with a few sociopathic twinges, a slight distaste for society and a low tolerance for idiocy, i suppose that since the answerbag community has exploded, burying loyal users under foolish " what do you think of..." or "what would you..." questions, his "good humor river" has been saturated and contaminated, leading to a scarcity in validity. The same questions are asked over and over again, with different wording no less, until there is no longer a steady stream of learning and this institution has become a stagnant swamp full of foolish cannibalistic frogs. This eagle has seen enough, and begun to eat the slower weaker frogs, who may mean well but don't accomplish much, and dashing the ones that believe it a game, against the rocky shores below the bluff.
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Some people just don't like certain people...I know there'sa lot of anti-Marshall fans out there.
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