How do I stop my 3-year-old's new habit of whining / crying when she doesn't get her way? At home I simply put her in time out, but she does it with other kids now, and they're getting tired of playing with her. I don't want her to be friendless, help?
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When she finds out she is friendless, she'll stop. Then they'll take her back. If you fight all her battles, she'll never learn. You can always start teaching her the moral reasons for behavior too. She isn't too young to start learning about being considerate of others.
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Every time she starts crying or whining take her to her room/timeout place and tell her when she is finished she may come back out to play. They get tired of sitting in their room by their self. -
If she finds out whining/crying gets her the opposite of what she wants, she'll realize she's gotta quit. Try ignoring or placing her elsewhere. Try giving her permission to whine and cry and when she's done she can join the fun, or the other kids, or lunch, or the playground, or the good stuff she's missing.
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Don't worry with time out when no one is around. If it is just you and her ignore her. Pretend you do not hear her, BUT the second she acts right make sure you respond to her like you are not frustrated from all the whining/crying. It should make a difference. I did that with my son. It took some time but it worked.
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There are only two ways to stop whining: never give in or always give in. In the name of all that is Good and Pure I beg you to use the first option. . It appears that that is what you are doing.
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she will grow out of it when she realizes it doesnt get her own way, it makes kids not want to be her friend
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Sounds like you learned that the "time out" crap doesn't work. It never does. Sometimes a child needs a spanking.
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I wish I could find this awesome article I read awhile ago about a woman who had a really interesting technique. Basically what she did was tell the child that they're not doing it right and she showed them how to throw a proper tantrum and then she told the kid to try it and do it better.. then when the kid would do it she'd tell them to lay on the ground and kid harder and pound their fists harder and no matter how hard the kid tried she'd tell them that they weren't doing it good enough... finally the kid would give up and would feel ridiculous.
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They all go through it, if ignoring her when she does it doesnt work, the time out thing should, Shes only 3 so probably wouldnt understand well if you explained that the other kids wont like her any more. Keep doing what your doing, she will soon get sick
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