My girlfriend has an anger issue but does not want to admin it.We would discuss a matter and then she would get so angry over the smallest discussion and see everything discussed as a personal attack on her.I am afraid to talk to her about anything.
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Sounds like you need a new girlfriend. That isn't a relationship, it's a dictatorship. If it is the way you portray it, dump her and start again. That is no way to live and no relationship worth pursuing.
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She is very Childish and when you ask her what is fault she says nothing but you can see on her face she has an issue .If you ask her about it trying to resolve it she says that she can do nothing right and that I have a problem with everything she does.This makes me mad because I do not know how am I suppose to resolve an issue if she acts like this
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Well spotted! She does have anger issues. You haven't actually asked a question but I assume that you want to know what you can do about it. Educate yourself as much as you can about the issue but don't make any accusations because she will just become defensive and that would be counter-productive. Here is a good place to start: http://www.apa.org/topics/controlanger.html It might be hard to help her if she won't admit to having a problem, but finding out all you can about it can help you cope with it and, if you have to, decide whether or not you are willing to continue the relationship in spite of her issues. I hope this all works out positively for the both of you.
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It could be many things. How often do you discuss relationship issues? If it is all the time, then it may seem like you are constantly belittling her. Do you ever tell her the good things that she does in the relationship or only point out the bad? She may have a very low esteem, be manipulative, and need constant reassuring. -
This is what I would call a HUGE RED FLAG WARNING! Most of us have areas of our personalities that without help or something drastic happening...we can not or will not seek to change! We are personally comfortable with these qualities, no matter how much they negatively impact our lives over all, and those we seek to have a relationship with... Time to consider moving on...just my opinion...I figure everyone deserves to be happy...as much as possible as long as they are causing no harm to anyone else! When a relationship reaches THIS stress level...where exactly is the fun, the comfort, the mutual sharing, the relaxing time enjoying life together? Life is short, there are far worse things than being alone!
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Behind anger is fear and beneath fear is pain. Have a talk with your gf and ask her if she feels her anger is productive and how does it serve her to feel angry. She is obviously fearful of something...perhaps being disagreed with or fear of negative results. Perhaps she could examine her own feelings. Therapy might help.
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Is she the only girl in the world?
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She could probably benefit from professional counseling, but maybe you need counseling also to find out why you need to stay in an abusive relationship.
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