So: my husband's asked me to set aside some time for a date tomorrow night, but I found out he doesn't have plans or a babysitter yet. Should I just go with the flow? Or should I take initiative to organize everything as usual?
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grittygurl
ANSWERS: 12
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Well, if the babysitter is for your children, then as a mom, take the initiative to have someone to take care of your children while your away, but ask your husband first before doing this actions, because he might have already planned it after you knowing he hasn't got plans yet.
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At least give the man the chance to screw things up! Not that you sound bitter or anything;)
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No, this is his idea, let him take care of it. He maybe has something special planned for you. Let him be in charge for a change.
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flow with it... be water.
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you could just ask jim if he has made arrangements and not told you. Line up the babysitter, because he is sure not to, but let him make the plans for where you are going and doing.
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I would leave it to him. He has asked you to set aside some time, but has he asked you to arrange babysitters? Maybe it is time he realises that having a date involves needing to make other arrangements. It is like men and gravy. I have some friends who rave about their dad's gravy at christmas- mum cooks does all the preparation, buys the food, cooks the meal, but then dad steps in and makes the gravy, and carves the meat. The whole success of the meal seems to revolve around the success of the gravy, regardless of what mum has done to prepare, and cook etc. Sounds like this is the same situation you have. Your husband wants a date, and will take the credit for the success of the date without realising the effort you have had to put in to make it all possible. I say, leave it to him. If he has not arranged for a babysitter, then maybe you will not be able to go out at all - but he will then realise that there is more to dating and romancing his wife than just phoning a restaurant to make bookings.
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Maybe you should have flipped around each other's responsibilities to making this happen... You should have found the babysitter and he should plan the date... Unless your man has been active in helping you with the babysitters in the past, more than likely he sucks at finding them or doesn't know anyone... I'd plan as if it is going to happen, personally, I wouldn't mind bringing the children along... But that's me...
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Puleeeease = these are your children with the hubby - by all means take him up on his offer, but make sure it can be done. Make sure a babysitter is taken care of and gt out - have a good time.
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Men need to know sometimes that they decide, they had the initiative etc. So, if you do something to help, do it from the shadow, so that he would be sure that the success of the date is because he organized well. A man must feel like a man... if he doesn't next to you, he flies away.
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make it happen, you'll have fun..
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Just go with the flow....Getting a babsitter and organizing everything takes time and it shouldn't have to fall on you. Just don't have high expectations
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Work together as a team, you phone the babysitter men are useless at those kind of things and let him organise the date... Not everything had to be booked, spur of the moment is just as great if not better because then you wont have any expectations!
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