I am open and honest with my woman about everything and have the best relationship ever. I watch porn and jerk off sometimes to satisfy my extra desires. I don't tell her but hide nothing on purpose. Should I tell her of my wanking? Will she care?
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ANSWERS: 15
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It's a touchy subject for the ladies, to be honest. It could make her feel like she isn't enough for you, which apparently she isn't. But if you really want the best relationship ever, you're going to need to put some more work into it because SHE thinks everything is fine, sexually. Have you tried saving yourself only for her? Is it really all that difficult?
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Most women are aware that men do masturbate..most women do as well..If she is insecure at all..she may have a problem with the porn part of it :)
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Show me a man who doesn't touch himself, and I'll show you a liar.
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I dont think she will care if you wank yourself. my fiancee tells me when he does, I just laugh and say "and yu didnt let me watch, shame on you"
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As long as you are both sexually satisfied, I don't think she will mind.
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I don't see why you need to bring this up. Most people masturbate, it's safe to assume both of you do. I don't know if she'd care or not -- some people are touchy about masturbation, I can't say if your girlfriend is one of them. If it does come up, be honest. If she accuses you of keeping it from her, say it never came up before, that you're sorry she feels lied to, but you don't think there's anything wrong with it. If she asks you to give it up, tell her you think she's being unreasonable, and no you won't give it up. She'll have to accept that if she wants to stay with you. If she wants to leave you, let her go. If you were to agree to give up porn and masturbating for her sake, you'd end up doing it anyway and resenting her for making you lie, and then she would have something to be upset about.
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I think you're addicted to porn, or find a fantasy in porn that you're unable to fulfill with your partner. Thus, I don't think this is enough justification to open the subject with her unless you're willing to allow her the chance to say: stop porn, and i'll satisfy you anyway you want.
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yeah you should tell her. masturbation is part of a sex life, and if you share a sex life with someone then you shouldn't keep your "extra desires" from them, and if you must the least you could do is tell them about it.
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I don't see why you would tell her! Its your body, you can do what you want. If you have extra desires - see if you can fulfill them with her, that's all I would say. She may not care, she may care and feel inadequate - either way, I personally don't feel it necessary to tell her.
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different people react differently. I don't think it is necessary to tell your partner about it, Sometimes it's best to just let sleeping dogs lie. I masturbate frequently. I can't help it. I was with a guy for 11 years who had no problem with it at all. I was also with another who caught me about a half a dozen times and was really upset by it. He felt inadequate or like he wasn't doing enough to satisfy me which just wasn't true. I just have a huge sex drive and if the mood strikes me I just take care of it. My shower massage gets quite a workout. I would just keep it to myself unless the subject comes up. I wouldn't lie about it if asked but there is no reason to really mention it if it isn't brought up. No harm done as far as I can see. If things are going smoothly don't rock the boat unless you have some conscience issues over it.
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Of course she will care.. perhaps she will ask you a question as "Am i not good enough for you or dont you feel satisfied while we are together ??" At least i hate that !!
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It is weird ! at least if i were your wife once I heard that you told me I was sleeping and you didnt want to wake me so you were sorting yourself out, I would be pissed off right away and would ask you how could you know I wouldnt want more? just because I was sleeping ? and what or who you were thinking when you were sorting yourself out ??? Hey man if you really feel deeply in your heart you have done nothing wrong then why you feel weird ???
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D'you have something particular in mind that you hope to accomplish by sharing this information with her? Knowing the answer to THAT question should help you guide your decision whether or not to tell her about watching porno.
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i don't think it's necessary to tell her - she probably already knows!!! As long as it doesn't affect your sex life with her. If it did and you waited till she went to bed to get off - then there would pose a problem. If it's brought up then be honest - otherwise, i don't see the why you should go out of your way
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The Bible says that if a man looks at a woman with lust he has already committed the sin in his heart. You have already been unfaithful to your woman. You have shamed yourself and her. Also, by "wanking" you have denied yourself and your wife one of God's greatest gifts to a couple. You need to talk to her and get some of these issues out in the open.
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