If I was asked to yes.

I don't think I'd ask my s/o to attend a funeral of someone she'd never met. If it was important to her, I suppose I'd do it.

Funerals are for the living, not the deceased.

The funeral is for the family not for the one who died.

yes..and i have...as a harley rider group...ur friend is OUT OF LINE....a simple , heartfelt ,"i'm sorry" , is respectful enough...she is a dominant, guilt tripper......many don't go but express sympathy,send flowers,cards.....she is mean...some friend...:)justme

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. There's an old saying, "The only funeral you're obligated to go to is your own." I don't even like to go to funerals of people I know. If they bitch about that, they sound kinda snippy.

A funeral isn't about the person who died. A funeral is for the family and friends of that person. Your friend lost her grandfather and was in mourning. I think she would have appreciated your company and found comfort in your supportive presence. She may feel as though you weren't there for her when she needed you most.

yes, i would go!

Then she should have asked you to go.

If you are close with this friend, then I totally agree with her. A lot of people attend funerals to support the people who are actually grieving.

If you didn't know about it untill the day of the funeral then they shoudn't be mad at you. Had you been told sooner then I would say maybe you should have been there for your friend, but that was too short of notice.

Yes I would and I have and I agree with your friend. Unless of course you aren't that close to her and she is just an aquaintance...but I still would probably go. +5

this is just to add on to the question. i hate funerals. i have since i learned about death with my great grandmothers passing when i was 8. i wasnt allowed to go to that funeral. i had never gone to one until my junior year in hs when a good friend who i had grown up with was struck by a train. and i think the reason i have such a problem with this is because of that funeral. for the funeral we were allowed to get out of school, no penalty. when i arrived there were people there that probably didnt even know who he was. why they hell would you go to a funeral of someone you dont know?!?!?!?!!?!? oh because you could get out of school free. it made me so mad. and then just recently i went to my 3rd funeral ever. a co-worker committed suicide. when we got there the place was PACKED there were people standing and they even had a video live feed to another part of the church. and the part that pissed me off about that one is, even though he had alot of friends and was well liked, most of the people were there just to chat, and catch up with one another. they could have cared less who was lying in that coffin. and there were people who took up the rows in the front where his family and closest friends should have been sitting. our company (the 10 of us) were supposed to have a row to ourselves about 10 rows back from the front. instead, because of the greedy people there, we sat at the very back. this is why i think you should only go if you really knew the person and you are there to pay your respects. if its your friend grandfather that you never met, yes you should express sympathy and be there for them, but i dont think that entitles you to go to their funeral.

I would have to be on the side of your friend. I would have gone to be there for your friend. There are 2 things that I would never miss. 1. Funerals 2. Weddings

I would go to the funeral of my friend's parents because I have met them and know them as people, but I would never think of going to any of their grandparent's funerals as I don't know them. If a friend specifically asked me to go as support then that would be different, but otherwise no, and I would never even think about any friends coming to my grandparent's funerals either, or be unhappy that they didn't think to come.

Yes, I have done twice actually. I went for my S/O, and a friend. It was just to support them, and be there for them on the day. I can understand that you didn't go to your friend's Grandfather's though, and why it didn't occur to you to go. It is a strange thing to attend the funeral of someone you have never met; and we all have different feelings when it comes to funerals.