I feel so guilty and dirty after having sex with someone other than my ex boyfriend...Is there a reason behind this and how can I stop feeling so bad?
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This is normal for someone young. Essentially you've chosen to break your vows of fidelity. It indicates that you've got a conscience. But not enough of one to stop you from screwing around. Either A) Stop screwing around, or B) Become a Republican and divest yourself of your conscience, to end the stop feeling bad. Or C) Confess to the beau.
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I think you should try getting back together with him. If he doesn't want to then take things slower when dating new guys.
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If he was already your "ex" when you had sex with someone else, then there's no reason to feel guilty. If you were still with him, and slept with someone else, it's normal to feel guilty. But since you do, my guess is that deep within yourself, you still feel that he is yours and you are his. You are reacting emotionally as if you're his wife. If you can't or won't take him back, or if he won't take you back, then at least stop sleeping around. Forgive me if this sounds judgmental, for I don't mean it that way, but IMO sleeping around is a good reason to feel guilty. Stop doing it; you will live over it.
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Get over him he has obviously manipulated and controlled you through your relationships.
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If you've recently broken up with him and started a new physical relationship, then you're not yet "over" him. I'd slow down on jumping into something new (or the bed of someone new) or else these feelings will continue and worsen, and your own opinion of yourself will go down. Give yourself time to get over him, and when you're ready for the new relationship you won't feel any shame or guilt at all. The rule of thumb is "one month recovery per year you spent together." Your mileage may vary.
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