That is so tough because I can feel for him. You can not use the booze as an excuse ofcourse and do not try. All you can do is apologize and hope that he can forgive you, but you destroyed his trust in you and that is a main factor of staying together as a couple. People cheat and then say they love the one they cheated on. But that does not help. the demage is done. How can you even get worked up over another if you really, truly , love one. I can't. Maybe that is why I hve been married almost 26 years.

A contributing factor? Once trust goes it is very difficult to get it back.

Being in a relationship where you are not trusted will bring you only misery. He is telling you that he can't move on with it. Listen to him, take a lesson and make it work in your next relationship. Personally, i think the monogamous way that many people date is ridiculous, but if he had the expectation that you would not be with anyone else and you broke a promise he had reason to believe, then he may not be able to get back to a point of trust. Somethings cannot be fixed. We have to accept the consequences of our mistakes and that we may not be able to recover lost ground. Move on and address the issues that would not make you want someone else (that's quite normal), but that might make you think yourself ready to lay it all down in some kind of commitment when obviously you weren't. Vow not to do that again until you are truly ready. It will come with maturity and aside from marriage or the genuine intent to marry i find exclusivity for the birds. The whole purpose of dating is to meet a lot of people, to enjoy yourself and to learn what you can live with and what you can't so that one day you can make a decent final choice about it. Just becasue you love him does not mean it's right. Most cultures don't tolerate us being with all that we love, so just because you are in possession of that emotion does not mean the relationship would work. Love is actually the easy part and more of a decision that the "falling" people want to believe. Love or not, you still have control of your life and your future. You will not die from the grief we all go through many times in a lifetime. It will fade and disappear soon enough. Move on. On to a place where you are not branded a cheater and don't make the same mistake twice. gentle thoughts...

First of all, stop feeling sorry for yourself, secondly He seems to be really confused you've made him that way, if you truly want to be together, you need to know your drinking limits, If you don't know what your doing when drunk, then don't get drunk! why not try again, but go SLOWLY don't live together, don't spend everyday together help him to see that He may be able to trust you again. Or just move on, both of you, Your a cheat and he's a fool if he forgives you!

Go to counselling together.

Well it depends on who you cheated with. I would guess that it is someone you knew already. correct?

If you truly loved him you would not have cheated. I can't blame him. Sorry but i think he should leave and never look back. Purely my opinion.

Well, you now have to suffer the consequences of your actions! He feels he cant trust you and I dont blame him.

You failed. It happens. Learn from your mistakes and move on. He is trying to leave but it is painful. You should move on. You cant have a relationship without trust and he will never trust you again.

unless you cheated with a woman, you should move on, trust is a fragile thing, once you break it, it's near impossible to heal.

let him go, be honest and faithful to your next boyfriend.