Find someone else. Honestly, you'll be happier with someone you can trust and who shares your interests.

Drunk is not an excuse to cheat. And asking someone to give up their faith isn't going to work. Yet if you love him. Stand by his convictions and yours.

why should he give up his religion for you??? if you really love him, you'd support his beliefs. the cheating thing is something you should talk to your fiance about. if he was drunk he probably wasn't in full control of himself.

Sounds like you have a lifetime of misery ahead if you stick him out too long. He shouldn't have to give up his religion for you (that's very selfish of you), but it doesn't sound like he adheres to it, so he'd might as well.

Sometimes we have "practice marriages". Ones we look back on and know we deserve better. You may love him, but a better and more true love is waiting for you.

He insists on going back to his church, but he gets drunk and cheats on you? Doesn't sound like someone so adamant about being a Jehovah's Witness to me. Why are you staying with him again? You don't get to help decide the religion you believe in, he gets to party and have sex with other women. You love him. That looks like 3 votes against staying with him, and one for staying.

Move on as quickly as possible.

You need to get rid of him yesterday. The witnesses are not a church that I would trifle with and if he cheated on you then get rid of him cause he may just do it again when you are married. Doesn't sound like a very faithful Witness if you ask me.

Drunkenness and Fornication are two separate problems. No one should use drunkenness as an excuse for fornication or adultery. You say that you love this man, yet you will not allow him to practice the faith of his choice? Why should a man choose a marriage mate that would go so far as to dominate him to the extent that he would not be able to practice the faith of his choice? This man has by his actions, has “already given up his religion”. Was he raised a Witness? His lifestyle indicates that he has left behind the things that he was taught in his youth. He certainly has demonstrated a need to get back to God’s Word and let it shape his life. A man who unrepentantly abuses alcohol and cheats on you is no sound choice for a husband. What should you do? Put off marrying such a man until he has clearly shown that this behavior is forever put behind him. You say that you hate his faith. Have you ever been to meetings at the Kingdom Hall? Have you ever studied the Bible with Jehovah’s Witnesses? I am one of Jehovah’s Witnesses. I have met two (non-witness) women who had husbands who used to cheat on them and physically abuse them. They stayed with these men, despite the fact that this treatment was constant. Why? These “bad boys” were charming, handsome, fun to be with. Both of these men felt guilt inside of them. They accepted Bible studies with the Witnesses. They turned themselves around, put on the Christian personality that the Apostle Paul spoke of. Everyone noticed that they had changed, cleaned up their acts. They no longer got drunk, or got high. They stayed at home, helped with the kids, never cheated on their woman. How did these two ladies react? They hated their men, despised them. Both said that they preferred their men as they used to be. Now these are two isolated incidents, but there is something very bent about that thinking. I hope that you are not that way.

While the cheating not once but twice is not an example of someone I would want to be with.. add the drinking.. then religion.. maybe he is wanting to get his act together.. kudos to him and rate me down til the heart is content but NO ONE should ask another person to give up their religion for them. That is my personal opinion. I have dated guys of different religions and we showed each other respect in our differences.. we did NOT try and take something that meant a lot to us, away from each other. Nor should you. - my two cents

Don't marry him! You either have to accept him for who is, or just move on. It's better to be equally yoked with someone who is on the same lines as you.

"shit hapens at partys" mix drunk people with the drunk opposite sex add more alclhal and ur just asking for trouble. as for relgion its his choise if you really love him then his relgion shouldnt matter but if it does and it causes problums then you have (realisticly) 2 shoises stay and work it out. or leave.

Why don't you look for someone that actually suits you, rather than trying to change someone that obviously doesn't? If you marry this guy you will being setting both of up for a HUGE fall. DON'T DO IT!! BTW, why should he give up his religion for you? If he trully believes it, then you are the one that is being unreasonable here. Why would you want him to sacrifice his core beliefs like that, regardless of how you may/may not believe? Let him go. This is not the man you are looking for.

if you really love him like you say you do, you would tell him he’s not demonstrating such a good Jehovah’s witnesses and he will clean up his act, if his religion is that important to him, and that will later lead to a honest and healthy relationship. and you should be ashamed of your self to want him to give up his religion for you that’s personal and no one says you have to become a Jehovah’s witnesses

You have two issues: 1) drunkenness and sexual misconduct 2) his so-called religious beliefs (which, if they meant so much to him would make him stop point 1) Either way, this boy has severe problems that are too much for you to have to deal with. Sad to say, it is goodbye time.

Unfortunately, your love isn't going to change his character defects, or his religious beliefs. So far, your list of cons is short but strong: potential alcohol problem, infidelity and religious differences. You might consider postponing any wedding plans and getting into counseling for yourself. With some guidance and support, you might find out that you are worth more than he is able to give you. At the very least, it may give him some time to clean up his act and figure out what he wants for his life.

Sorry to anyone this offends... get out of that situation for no other reason than that church. If you decide to no longer be affiliated with that church (if you go along w/ it and marry him), he will be told by church elders to divorce you. PERIOD. I'm not kidding. Also, as a side note... your children are not allowed to do sports, cannot celebrate birthdays, cannot even wish others happy birthday, cannot do anything with friends without a chaperone regardless of age and so on and so on. And regardless of religion... he has a lot of adaucity to proclaim such an expectation of you, particularly after cheating.

Both he and you should study with Jehovah's WItnesses and become Christiand and you will have better lives.

Cheating is one thing, that can be forgiven, but being a Jehovah's Witness? THAT is impossible to live with. Ditch him, now and forever, no looking back. Anyone stuck in the deep mire of JW-land is not worth a backwards glance.

I dont get the connection between church and cheating. what about willing to give up cheating? you are going into a married relationship with 2 srtikes against you, run, dont walk

You seem to love the "idea" of him, not him himself. Get outta there! Find someone to invest your time in who will love and respect YOU by NOT cheating on you. Fidelity and communication are the most important elements of a relationship, and it seems he is incapable of expressing either.

First of all your bigger problems are his drinking and affairs. He sounds to me like someone who might be interested in being one of JW's but not quite their yet. Second his relationship between him and God are just that between him and God....No place for you, sorry but this is the one thing I am very selfish with. I will let no man come between me and God. Third, If you really truely love him like you say you might find that becoming one of Jehovah's Witnesses will help with the drinking and the cheating if he has any loyalty at all to God.

If he wants to go back to JW's it means he want to put his life back on track because JW's have very high moral standards and won't put up with his ways he would have to put his life in order before he become a JW so if he is willing to change it is a good thing and it will only do good for your relationship, go along and just see how things go you will find that they are very open honest moral people who can only do good things for your boyfriend, you will also benifit if you go along, give it a try, please let me know how you get on.

"He is unwilling to give up his religion for me"?? Really? You're trying to change his religion. No matter what the religion of a person, giving an ultimatum of a relationship or religion is the wrong way to go. Sure, you may like him to change, but when you say "unwilling to change for me" it sounds extremely controlling. But, if he really does want to follow the Jehovah's Witnesses beliefs he's not doing a good job by cheating on you. Drop him, before you're married.

If the elders of his congregation knew about this, he could be disfellowshipped. A true J.W. would not behave this way. It is just not enough to SAY you are a J.W. It is a way of life. with many meetings and regular field service [ witnessing door to door] Also a true J.W. would not have got engaged to someone who is NOT also a baptised J.W. Unlike Catholics, you cannot claim to be a non-practicing J.W. Even if you were once baptised as a J.W., once you cease meetings and filed service, you are no longer included as a member of the congregation of your particular area. If you change your ways and your mind and wish to again be a member of the congregation, it will be necessary to commence a Bible study just as if you were a stranger off the street. And after diligent study and regular meeting attendance, the elders will then decide if you qualify for field service...under supervision... Its not easy being a J.W. because it requires a firm commitment...

I am not going to comment on the religion thing because you are asking him to give up what he believes in. However, if he cheated on you not just once but twice than he needs to go. If he feels the need to sleep with other women than he is not capable of being in a serious relationship or he simply does not care. So by leaving him I just solved both of your problems... Seriously you deserve better than that...

HI , just noticed your question know it has been awhile but was wondering what happenned in the situation , did you end up getting married, and did he go back to being a J.W., he certainly would have had to change ?

I would forgive him for being a drunk and a cheat but a Jehovah's Witness? Ewww, never!

he is a pain in your ass,you said you love him,but does he love you??why is it only you who is copromising all the time??ask yourself...lady you need to wake up big time!!!!!!

if you love him why would you make him give up his religion. whats the difference

Call me in a year or two....I'll handle your divorce.