Honesty here. if she does not feel the need for sex now, it will only get worse, if you marry. some women are just that way. the medications may play a small part in her denial of sex, but the biggest part lies within herself. You are heading down a path of being alone, in the sex department. Should you look elsewhere?

It's a bit of a challenge to figure out what's up and what your options are without knowing what sort of medication your girlfriend is ON, or supposed to be on. If these are medications to help support her due to a chemical imbalance, such as Bi-polar disorder, or some other type of challenge, I can almost promise you that her going off of her meds , just to try and increase her sex drive is a major BAD IDEA. Likewise, if she was on them for depression, it's not going to make things more rosy for the two of you...depressed people don't generally have much of a sex drive either. If you are mostly with her to enjoy sex, I think you'd be happier with someone who is a better match to your drive. If you've experienced this before, perhaps you really aren't as adept at making love as you think you are, or have been led to believe. A lot of young women DON'T tell their partners that they aren't getting it...they fake it sometimes. I'm not trying to burst your bubble, but that may also be a reason she'd not too interested. Forget arguing...that isn't solving any problems for either of you. IF you care about the RELATIONSHIP AT ALL...stop arguing, and start discussing EVERYTHING in a caring and more realistic manner...talk to try and solve problems, don't argue and speak hatefully to create MORE. Also, you can BOTH go together and speak to her Doctor about this "side effect" and what might be done about it, another type of medication may be available that will give her the medical support she may need, without the problem.

Mrcavip -- Lack of sex drive is *definitely* a common side effect of some depression medications. Even if they don't directly affect sex drive, they can make sex less pleasurable, which can lead to loss of sex drive. There are some supplementary medications that can be used to lessen those side effects. Hopefully, between you, her and her doctor you can figure out a regimen that will make you both happy. You can check out more information here: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ssrisex/ Or type "SSRI sexual side effects" into a search engine and do check out the various web sites. Good luck.