I really need to know how do you forgive yourself after you have done something to hurt somone you love?
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broken_beauty17
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I'm sorry you did this, but please don't think you're alone. I can't think of a single breathing soul that hasn't made the same blunder. Having said that, you still have the work to do on yourself to preventing it from happening again. It is impossible to escape, unless you want to repeat this pattern for the rest of your life. Self-forgiveness is important but not as important as self-examination. To forgive yourself, you have to come to terms with what you did. then, let it go. You can do this by journaling or talking to others, but my favorite way was to spill my guts in letter form addressed to the person I hurt, then burn it. ps - If you think the person would benefit from reading it, send it to them. Just don't expect anything in return. Good luck!
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well, your not the first person that has done that. You have to have them forgive you first. As long as you feel like they are hurt, your never going to forgive yourself. Give them time, and if they love you, they will want to take you out of your hurt as well. i hope that helps :)
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Everyone hurts someone sometime. Self examination is fine, but also examine the person you hurt. Are they being overly touchy? Sometimes people take hurt to far and no amount of apology or self loathing will get them to forgive you. If you have made amends and taken steps to rectify things and they still won't forgive then it's time to move on. Self doubt can only go so far before it becomes a suicide pact. Look at all sides if you can.
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Firstly, I think everyone has done this at some point, if not more than once. You are only human after all, at least, I am assuming you are, hehe. People make mistakes, nothing to beat yourself up over. Obviously you didn't mean to hurt them and you are remorseful, which shows me that you do love and care for them and it was an honest mistake. I would apologize, either by email, snail mail, phone, or in person-the latter would be best, as it is more personable. Your question shows you have a big heart. 1. You apologize in the most appropriate way possible. 2. Remind yourself of all of the good things you have done for others and love you have felt for them and yourself to counteract any self sabotaging or negative feelings. Hopefully that helped a bit.
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The best way to forgive yourself, i think is by letting the person know you are relly sorry. Once you have done this you then try to work out why you did what you did and promise to try to never make the same mistake again.
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