If you think your health is in danger, go move back home with your parents or a sibling or a friend. Get yourself out and worry about the divorce later (unless there are children involved, then get them out and away immediately)

Wait until she leaves for work, put her crap on the curb in a trash bag, and have the locks changed.

OMG! get a restraining order, or go to the police

If you ever let her hit or abuse your parents you are NO MAN! Can't divorce her...Leave her anyway!

Are you just stupid to let her hit uyou is bad enough, but to hit your parents is low down and sorry. You stap it from happening.

have your parents call DSS, some people don't know DSS will help with the elderly also.

Ever heard of duct tape and black trash bags?

Cany afford a divorce? mate you need to stop hiding behind excuses. Asking the question here wont change anything...this stuff is a diversion that allows you to continue to avoid dealing with the situation. You know exactly what to do, what you really need to ask yourself is why arent you doing it? I suspect the answer wont be pretty and be based around your fear (probably dressed up as lots more excuses)either that or a deep part of you likes it on some level, cos after all, you put yourself there and you continue to stay there...therefore you must like it - or not like yourself. A little harsh but, pretty true if you move aside all the bullshit. You dont need to afford divorce mate...just walk away. I suspect that you wont of course, i suspect your choices will continue to victimise you -its just damn shame that your parents have to suffer too. Personally i find it tragic that you watch your parents being treated badly and still stand around making excuses...how many more people are you going to sacrifice on the alter of your fear and inability to act before you get off your arse and do something? It seems to me that the universe is chucking thunderbolts at you cos you have made the wrong choices and are in the wrong place (loss of job etc) id listen if i were you and id stand in front of your parents - im pretty sure they stood in front of you often enough.

I went through the same thing. My ex called the cops and made up a story for them about abuse against both her and the kids. The officers asked both of the kids if it ever happened only to hear them say and I quote "Mommy is the one that hits us not Daddy" I was escorted off the property and I was more than happy to go! I had been looking for a way out of that marriage for years so when she opened the door I left! Most laywers will work with you when it comes to their bill. I got lucky there.