" April 23, 2007 -- Women who are alcohol-dependent develop serious and potentially irreversible brain damage more quickly than men, new research shows...." From: http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/alcohol-abuse/news/20070423/women-alcohol-brain-damage So there is something to the 'dead brain cells' theory. Another thought: Postmenopausal women consuming two or more alcoholic beverages a day may double their risk of endometrial cancer, suggests a study led by researchers at the University of Southern California (USC).... From: http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/81925.php So there are at least two medical reasons to reassess your alcohol consumption. A non-alcoholic will say something like 'I like wine, it tastes good.' and alcoholic would say something along the lines of 'I need that wine'. So which is it for you? Just like or a need? Why do you look forward to your three glasses? The fact that you 'tried' stopping and can't could be a warning sign that you have a little problem with the potential of becoming a huge problem. Perhaps the hubby sees more than just dead brain cells, perhaps he sees that your consumption of wine is a little more than three glasses, or perhaps the mood change in your drinking is sending him warning signs that he cannot (is unable) express in a meaningful manner? I'm not there I don't see what he sees. I do not know whatyou feel when you drink, I do not know what your relationship with him is like. It is possible that sex is no longer fulfilling (or something else unrelated to the wine) and he is just lashing out. And is is possible he is worried for your over all well being and see's a developing problem. I would urge you to speak with a doctor, discuss with him her your feelings about the wine, and why it was so hard for you to stop a 'moderate' drinking habit.