for your situation: Accept...means to realize that with every win there is a loss. Conquer...means to let bygones be after the fact and understand where your mistakes were in order not to repeat them later in another relationship or if this one is renewed. It's easier...means all good things take time to be earned. The time... means it's okay to accept failure so long as you continue to grow and learn from them for prevention of hurt later. So, you broke someone's heart. Girls cry 5 times more than men, as indicated once in a recent study. Females are more emotional and their brains are even made up differently than men, in that they tend to have more feeling-oriented experiences and men tend to have more fact-based experiences. You need to search within yourself through a lot of time and maybe journal writing, in order to figure out what made the relationship not work. There are several books telling women and men not to waste your time on people who are not sincerely attentive to your needs. She gave you her heart and the connection wasn't reciprocated, so that's why she's so hurt. You have to suck it up when you see her, and if you haven't given her a sit-down talk about why you felt the connection wasn't there, then she may need that to move on, and you might need that to feel comfortable as well...But, don't give her empty promises that something might happen again. This will certainly become a pattern neither of you will want or need. Remember the saying that, "He's just not that into you" while also learning from others' experiences that if someone doesn't react the same ways in which you do at the same level of attention, etc., and they are also not already your sincere romantic partner, (i.e. boyfriend, girlfriend, significant other), then you will be wasting your time with this person. This is what she needs to realize. My brother wasted 12 years chasing after one girl, married her finally, then she divorced him after 2 months. Sad but true. If you are still learning more about who you are, then you need to own up to that and maturely let her know this isn't a good time in your life to be in a relationship with someone like her, who is hoping for a longterm relationship. Eventually, she will and you will respect you more for being honest and saying you screwed up by not being more upfront in the beginning. She shouldn't think that it is her. It only means you need time to grow, but even once you do, she is not a walk-on door mat... Remember that you two are people who should get the respect you both ask for, and if you aren't ready to give her that respect, SHE NEEDS to move on.

You set out to do your deed and you did it. Now the guilt is heavey for you to handle and you feel bad about it. go up to her and atleast talk to her and tell her that you were trying to break it off but just did not know how because you did not wnat to hurt her and you see it went about it the wrong way and can the two of you be friends. That is it not better for you to be honest that you do not have those feelings or would shw want you to lie to her and use her and pretend. At least save a friendship out of this.