Since April, 1 of my best friend's been getting drunk. She's made fun of me, mouthed me off, told me she hates me and wants me to go to hell. We stopped talking in August, now she says she luvs me and regrets everything. Should I keep her as a friend?
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She's got some issues and you need to set some boundaries or you will be mistreated again by this person. I would give her one last chance explaining very, very clearly that you will not be spoken to in that manner again or that's it. End of friendship. Tell her she needs counseling or she will ruin all of her relationships.
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Is she still drinking? If so, give her a miss or she'll keep on using you as a verbal punching bag just because she can. If she is sober and rational and you enjoy her company, then be her friend if you want to. Find another 'best' friend though, because you can't trust this girl.
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Ok, first off you need to think about this and putt yourself first. Ask yourself: How does she make me feel when she does this? Am I ok with her drinking? If you said no to her drinking then let her know! Tell her that her insults make you fell hurt and that if this continues then no you refuse to be her friend. If she really does regret everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, then she will stop getting drunk and be your usual friend agian. If you accept her in agian, and she lets you down, she is un-reliable and a backstabber. Dont let her fool you the next time.
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giving someone a second chance won't hurt that much.. she's your bestfriend as what you have said, so friendship deserves that 2nd chance.. but first talk to her and settle things out and asked her why she did that.. she might have some problems that she can't tell you and getting drunk or making those craps to you is the least way she can cover it up.. just talk it over.. but after giving a 2nd chance and she did it again then maybe you ca let go of your friendship with her..
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(answering myself, I know...) Well, many people have said give her a second chance...I forgot to say that I did. I mean, one night she would do all this stuff to me, appologise the next day and I'd be best friends with her again. Then the next night, she'll do the same thing. This went on, over and over again for 3 months. I've given her at least 30 second chances.
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I'd encourage her to seek help with her drinking problem. She sounds like a nasty drunk to me. It is my theory that when she says she hates you and wants you to go to hell...she's really referring to herself. How she hates her own life and wishes it were better. I say life is too short for friends that bring you down.
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ONLY if you know for sure she's getting professional help (AA or otherwise) with her drinking problem. ONLY if you know she is no longer drinking. And ONLY as long as she behaves herself.
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If the good days are worth the bad days... Then of course you should. We all have them. As long as she is understanding of those times that you fly off the handle and she accepts you back again. That is what frienship is all about. Seeing past the bullshit masks that people sometimes wear to cover over their hurt and insecurity
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It depends. If this was only a one time thing and occured ONLY when she was getting drunk, then maybe you have a lot to talk about. But if it's been off and on then it's not worth it. Friends are supposed to be supportive and care about you, not put you down.
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Sure. Just don't hang out with her when alcohol is likely to be part of the equation and if she starts drinking, have an excuse ready for why you need to go. . Some people are mean drunks.
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