If you were in love with one of your best friends and you have already expressed your feelings and he/she kisses you passionately, and then goes out with someone else, is this cheating and should you be mad?
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No. Not unless you both decided that you'd be exclusively commited to one another as boyfriend and girlfriend. Simply sharing a kiss (passionate or not) doesn't mean that you two are together as couple.
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It's kinda mean, but it's not cheating. It's only cheating after you agree to be exclusive. Never assume anything at the very beginning. Make sure to spell it out explicitly. Otherwise, it's just a kiss. On the flip side, if you do kiss someone you don't intend to date exclusively, it's usually a good idea to clear that up as well so they don't get hurt.
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I wouldn't think so...but what kind of person would do such a thing?
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Yah I can relate cuz recently I just feel like I love my bestfrd more than a friend and I am contemplating whether I should come clean about my true feelings i kno he is seeing someone right now and Im pretty sure he knows that I have feelings for him. but anyways enough of my story. If I expressed my feelings and he react the same way ur bestfrd has done, I think I would ask him what the kiss actually means. And since uguys ARE best buddies, I think you shud tell him how u feel about the whole situation and uguys CAN figure it out together !
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It's not cheating at all, considering there was no relationship involved, just a kiss that was clearly a mistake. This best friend was probably just curious about what it would be like to kiss "me", so he did it. To be mad, yes...because there was feelings involved, and they were expressed. It would hurt, a lot, and I certainly wouldn't be friends with him anymore, if not just until I found someone else.
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He's not cheating on you. You have to have a committed relationship for that to happen, and a kiss is NOT a committed relationship. So you shouldn't be mad about that. He's treading water on cheating on the other girl with you, if he considers her is girlfriend or vice-versa. VERY few people like their s/o's kissing another, especially passionately. If you're mad at all, it should be about THIS. Meanwhile, if you've told him (which it appears you have), and he's expressed that he has SOME feelings for you (the kiss), then maybe he's taking care of "unfinished business". But, if he hasn't TOLD you, you're still "up in the air" about it. My suggestion, is that you continue as you were before the kiss until things change with him - Try to find another boyfriend, continue with school, work, whatever, and watch. If you DO find another before he is clear, then it's HIS loss. Don't YOU lose out on your own happiness by waiting for him to decide. Good luck. ;-)
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I wouldn't feel like they were cheating on me. But if I'd told them how I felt about them, they then kiss me intimately, * knowing the whole time, my feelings* And then choose to go off with someone else entirely? Mad? No just hurt and feel like my feelings for them were trivialized and taken advantage of. But the experience would leave me wiser and less trusting of *this* person with my important feelings and my friendship from now on in... And as for still trusting them with my love?? I'd have serious doubts... Kind Wishes to you.
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No, it is not cheating. What would be the point in being mad? Just forget about it and move on.
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if youre friends, how can it be cheating? You must be in a relationship befor you can cheat!
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No and No.
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is not cheating bcuz they are not together as b/f and g/f...and maybe the person may have rights to get mad bcuz the best friend just played that other person ....
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It might suck and hurt to know, but it's not cheating. You have to be in a relationship to cheat.
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