tell him that he cant have the best of both worlds. if he doesnt want commitment then dont give him sex. if he wants to be just friends treat him like a friend. hes messing with your head and its not fair on you.

Yeah, ask yourself how many other "friends with benefits" he has because he doesn't want to feel tied down to them either. It's not cheating if you aren't tied down right? He won't cheat on you if he's not committed right? It doesn't sound like he's made any strides to change his behavior, only efforts to get back into your sex life without any kind of relationship or commitment. Keep him your ex, and don't be friends with him... especially "friends with benefits". The number of years you've devoted to him may not be the same as the number of years he's devoted to you, and they may mean even less to him. You are away from him, that's the hard part, getting there and staying there. Don't invite the heartache back into your life.

Girl, he can't have his cake and eat it, too. That's a surefire way to end up with a broken heart. *hugs* Find someone who wants to be with you for your mind and personality as well as your body!

Time to walk out of his life and find a real man. He is selfish and only looking out for what he wants. He said he will always be there for you...yea right, as long as he gets what he wants out of it. He needs to grow up.

Anyone offering this to you is no friend, let alone a person who can be your partner. You love him, and he has no intention of taking care of your feelings or love. Ditch him as a friend and lover, and find someone who is worthy of you.

He is just horny for sex and i don't think you should consider a friendship with him because you will just fall in love with him again & he is just going to hurt you again. So don't get attached to this cheater.

If it were me, I would demand more respect from both myself and another person than to give up my body for someone else's selfish pleasure. I'd feel as though he were saying, "I didn't treat you well enough to be faithful and honest with you, I'm not really interested in how you feel, but you're an easy phone call when I want some free pleasure." If it were me, I'd realize there's far, far more to a healthy relationship than sex and that I'm worth all the better stuff. I'm worth waiting and finding that person who will treat me the way I deserve to be treated and not just as a play thing.

Let me be very honest with you. You love this guy and probably want to be in a relationship with him again. You think, if i do this friends with benefits thing, then eventually he will want to get back together. Is this close to how you feel? If so, then you are in the same situation I was in a few years ago. I thought that my boyfriend would want to get back together with me if i continued to sleep with him after we broke up. Would you like to know the outcome of that? I ended up getting pregnant, we tried staying together, but in the end all he did was lie and cheat on me. I am now single and raising our son alone for the most part. If this guy really loved you, he would respect you more and never ask such a thing of you. He only wants you for one thing, and as soon as he thinks he's found something better, he will move on and leave you alone. You will end up getting hurt more if you give in to him. I hope you can figure out a solution where you don't end up getting hurt.

Don't bring yourself down to his level. Show him that you are a decent person with high moral values and would not stoop to his low level by prostituting yourself with him. Show him you have pride and class.

Get the hell out. He wants to have his cake and eat it too... He wants you around while he doesn't have any other prospects, then as soon as he finds something "better" he'll drop you like he did the first time. By accepting his offer you'll just give him the freedom to do whatever he wants, but the comfort that you'll always be there if he doesn't find anything else. By being physically involved again you'll most likely just get your heart invested in something that isn't there and you'll go through all the pain a second time. I guess it's up to you to decide whether or not its worth it. Good luck.

JUST SAY " NO WAY "

Say Go To Hell... He just wants to use your weakness being in love with him. There are way more better person out there you deserve one.

omg, this was my last relationship. he doesn't respect you or any woman for that matter. I got the "i'll always be there for you and always love you but i can't commit to anyone right now" spiel also. i even accepted his offer like a dumbass bc i didn't want to lose him. i thought i could suck it up and he'd grow out of it. he never did. when i finally grew balls (no not literally thank god) and strengthened up my self esteem and sense of self worth i just cut off all ties. . . and it hurt like the worst sensation imaginable - all the senses. i went into deep depression.. but after all that it was worth it. i am free and finally me and happy! it's shutting the door completely and throwing away the key. it was so hard because he'd show up at my place crying rolling on the ground sobbing - YES SOBBING - begging for me back - emails, texts, facebook myspace - everything. at first it felt great to see so much emotion, but it's cycle. guys like these thrive on the thrill of the chase - emotional sexual experiences - the making up - the firsts - the sneaking around with the possibility of getting caught. it's like a drug to them. i even got addicted. but it's no way to live. please save yourself and leave. good luck

I agree with everything said above. There was a man who I finally kicked out of my life after 2 and half years (we knew each other for about 7 years previously), he wanted s** and 'friendship' but said he couldnt 'make any promises'. I put up with it then finally worked up the courage to end it, I got the 'Im sorry' and 'I care about you and I am always there for you' texts. But don't fall for it, tell him he can shove his offer of 'friendship' where the sun doesnt shine and end all communication with him. It hurts like hell but deep down you will know it was the right decision. Guys like these never respect you because you are not respecting yourself.

There are two sides of the coin, and they both deal with what you want out of the relationship. If all you want is sex for the rest of your "relationship" together then its not really a bad thing, as long as you maintain the fact in your mind that he will sleep with other girls too. If you want a committed relationship then you should get away from him cause thats never going to happen. I guess the true deal breaker is the fact that he cheated on you. You should ask yourself if you mind being used like that, cause in my opinion it will never go anywhere.