My mom passed away this week. :((( I am very sad and depressed. My friends suggest to find a hobby to keep me busy and away from my thoughts. I can't do knitting. I need something on the computer. I have no idea what I want to do.
Any suggestions?

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• Limetree thank you so much. Good advice. Thank you for the best wishes. I appreciate it. :)

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  by FairLady on February 20th, 2009

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• So true. And frankly I can;t really distract myself that much. Wherever I go my thoughts are with my mom. I walk like a zombie now. I function like a robot. My mind is far away with my mom.
  
  My family reminds me of the fact that life goes on.

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  by FairLady on February 21st, 2009

• My friend and I used to talk for hours, he tried escaping to Perth - he tried a lot of things to run away to. All he never tried though was talking to his family.
  He would talk to me about it often, I would mostly just listen as I can't really give any advice - what should I say? You'll be fine? Everything will be OK? Of course it will!
  
  But finally after two years he's moved on. I have no doubt he still thinks about her often.
  
  It's perfectly fine that a world simply caves in at this moment - I believe mine would too. I think right at this stage everyone's feelings suddenly become ultra-active towards that family member, now that you know you can't have her back.
  I think those feelings are natural to explode in that way, and settling them back down is a matter of time.
  
  I can't really speak from experience here, only what I saw in my friend. But I've seen the "zombie" stage before and think that it is the healing process that is taking place naturally.
  
  Big cuddle!!!

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  by harlekkin on February 21st, 2009

• Oh, but you MUST look at this. It always cheers up my day, srsly ;)
  
  http://icanhascheezburger.com/

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  by harlekkin on February 21st, 2009

• :) :) I saw - very very cute! Thanks honey. :)

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  by FairLady on March 8th, 2009

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• Hi, I have husband and daughter. They both are good support to me. but when they are away I am alone with my thoughts.
  
  I am a 60 years old woman who survived a lot in her life. Now I need to survive my mom's death. :((

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  by FairLady on February 20th, 2009

• Shammer, I am so sorry for you honey. To lose a child is incredible unbelievable sorrow. :( I know how much emotional pain you have now. :((
  
  If you want feel free to e-mail me, OK? mb we will chat on the messenger...

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  by FairLady on February 20th, 2009

• I'm 67 and am home most nights alone. That's when I spend way too much time inside my own head. I visited my son's grave at the cemetery today. I'm not one to sit and talk with remains, but sometimes it's just comforting to be at the place he was last. My friends have sent me several booklets, etc. Here's a poem from one of them that I felt was especially poignant.
  
  I was down in the valley of the shadow of death
  Where the passion for life drained like blood from my chest
  And it took more than my will just to take a step
  When the compass of hope was gone
  
  In a darkness so black that I wished for the blues
  Every desperate prayer seemed like heaven refused
  And some days I found faith meant just tying my shoes
  And it was all I could do to press on.
  
  ------Billy Sprague

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  by shammers still slogging along on February 20th, 2009

• Beautiful.

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  by FairLady on February 21st, 2009

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• Thank you Ms Red... I will try .

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  by FairLady on February 20th, 2009

• anytime xxxx when u smile she will look down and smile =)

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  by miss red on February 28th, 2009

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• Thank you soooo much! I really appreciate it. :)

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  by FairLady on February 20th, 2009

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• Thanks honey. I'll keep in mind. I am on AB a lot. Hope to make friends here as I am a good person and feel for people.

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  by FairLady on February 20th, 2009

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• Awww..... great ... thank you inspector Matt... :)

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  by FairLady on February 20th, 2009

• You're welcome! : ) I hope you can get to feeling better!

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  by Inspector Matt on February 20th, 2009

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• I agree... they support me a lot. Problem is I have so low concentration now that I am afraid to drive. My closest friend geographically has macular degeneration and is almost blind. :(( My other good friends some live far and other work during the day.
  But I can talk on the phone to those who don't work.

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  by FairLady on February 20th, 2009

• Thank you so much everybody for taking your time to respond and good advices. I really appreciate it.

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  by FairLady on February 20th, 2009

• Your welcome. I hard such a hard time and never let our my feelings, I did something I shouldn't of, and then I had to go to therapy. It's good that your looking for help.
  
  And yeah, just talk to them. Maybe get a video game? Something to pass the time. If you have a PC or an Intel Mac you could get Spore. It's this game where you start out as a little single celled organism and you evolve through time into multi cellular organisms and eventually animals etc. It looks really cool and I have heard great things on it. Hope this helped.

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  by Intelligentsia on February 21st, 2009

• wow... ty swagga .. I never heard of it... always learning something. Thanks hon.

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  by FairLady on February 21st, 2009

• lo, I switched my name from the time I answered this one. lol.

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  by Intelligentsia on February 21st, 2009

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