Is it normal for memories to fade of a person who died but was so close to you (my mom)? It's been 2 years. I can't seem to "feel" her anymore. Her voice, the way she looked and felt. It doesn't make me so emotional anymore. Am I cold-hearted?
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memories qand feelings will come and go for the rest of your life you are not cold hearted, i lost my brother 39 years ago and i have not for gotten him, but he pops into my mind once in a while to say hello-dont worry
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Well, my grandmother was my primary caregiver as a baby and child - It has been 6 years since her death, and i think i have forgotten some of her memories quickly too. I cant remember how she smells or sounds, only how she looked and what we did together. I dont think you're cold, we dont WANT to forget..It just happens =(
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Unless there is reinforcement of that into our consciousness, the memory fades from conscious awareness, because of you living in the present. i can't remember my step dads face, it Has been a long long time, though. But you know, that reunion, where you can see your mom, can be there , if you sit in your heart, in remembrance of her, you can feel her again. Your love for her will always be there, and is no way cold hearted.
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Nature given us a very good tool, that is why every body will be and every thing will be normal with in some time. That's nature rule. That's all.
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It's quite normal, and you're not cold hearted. Get on with your life.
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Look at pictures and the memories will come back. Your not cold hearted, your mother would want you to be at peace with her passing. Memories fade with time, nothing you can do about it.
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No, you're not cold-hearted; it's natural (for most people) for it to hurt less as time passes. Be easy on yourself, Pizzazz. . Just a guess, but it might also be partly the way you're wired... I am very poor at visualizing people's faces. Even with my family and co-workers I can only get about a 1/2-accurate or detailed mental likeness. I can imagine that if I had my father's face and general presence "right in front of me", mentally, that it'd be harder for me.
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I know just how you feel. My Dad died in November and one morning I was up for two hours before I thought of him. When I realized that, I burst out crying, feeling guilty. I guess the way I remember him will change but I will always love him and he will always be my hero. Same for you-and no!you are not cold-hearted, you just have to survive the loss and time gives you a way to do that.
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