It does not matter whether your husband is active in the Church or not. If you are legally married to him, then you are married in the eyes of the Church. The thing is that you two were not married in the Temple. This means that your union has not been sealed for eternity. Therefore, when you die, your marriage is ended. Again, with respect to this, it does not matter whether he is active or not. If you are not willing to join the church and go to the temple with him, then you will not be able to receive this ordinance. LadyReb asked, "Why should I have to give up my beliefs because of his?" We don't ask you to give up your beliefs. We do ask for the opportunity to talk about them with you and to see if we can't build on what you already believe. Give us the chance to increase your understanding of the scriptures. Whether you choose to accept what we teach is entirely up to you. However, if you choose not to accept what we believe, then you should not join the Church. I don't care what church it is. You should never join one just to please someone else. Only unite with a church because you truly believe what that church teaches. Matters of faith are too important to be taken lightly. If you are not prepared to live up to the commitments involved in membership with a church, then you will do more damage to your soul by accepting covenants that you are not prepared to keep than by not making those covenants. So, if you don't believe what your husband believes, don't let him pressure you into joining the church just to please him. On the other hand, would it hurt to take an open-minded look at what we teach and get the full story before you make a decision? I promise that, if you decide not to join, we will respect your decision.

Sure, they will respect your decision, but always fear for your soul. I am also a non-mormon married to an excommunicated mormon(may be a little different, but not much). Recently my husband has started thinking he would like to return to church - this is totally contrary to anything I believed would happpen when we married. I very much am a person who respects the religious views of my family, but cannot for the life of me wrap my head around them and understand. In fact it constantly blows my mind to see how deeply rooted their feelings of guilt and fear run. My husband truly believes he is a horrible person for not living up to the mormon standards - in that, believing that in order to be a good person you must align with them(I am much of the thinking that human beings can be wonderful in and of themselves without the crutch of religion). I am unwilling to raise my son in such a guiltridden practice. When you take too close of an outsiders look into what they believe, you come to the conclusion that either you, or they, are completely crazy. Sorry to go on so many tangents, but this is all fresh in my mind. To more specifically answer your question, it is my understanding, from what my husband and his bishop have said, that its true that they belive that to be together forever you have to be temple married. However, kind as they are, the mormons don't leave you totally high and dry if you cannot come to the conclusion that this is the right path for you in this life. When you die, apparently you have the opportunity to accept this as the truth then, and be sealed to your family...yada yada yada. If you ask me it is all a beautiful fairytale...that does not make room for believers to think on their own.

Church membership will not affect the state of your marriage. You are married until death or until divorce, and your husband's activity in the church will not affect that. Now if he's thinking over divorcing you over this, that's another issue, and would seem more than a little hypocritical from a Mormon perspective.

I really wish that a Mormon would show me where in the Bible it says that this (Sealed) marriage thing is real...

He sounds like a real winner to me. I wonder why he would want to go back after his period of absence. I have always understood that death breaks the marriage bond. Does this mean if he dies that you cannot remarry anyone?

WTF?!?!?!?

...Thats stupid. The mormon belief system is all jacked up and full of lies. God wouldnt deny you or him of heaven becuase you LOVE each other... God is Love.

You will be sealed for life but not eternity in LdS Theology. But not to worry Celestial Marriage is bunk. As Jesus said: Matthew 22:30 "At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven." However, I would encourage those "Gentiles" that are in dating relationships with Mormons - be they inactive or devout - to really, really think about this thread in light of what's been said here. I would also remind you that Mormon are famous for "Missionary Dating". Finally, both Bill McKeever and the LdS Church have very directly and honestly addressed the issues that can come from being "unequally yoked" to a Mormon: WEB CLIP: 'Being Unequally Yoked with a Latter-day Saint' by Bill McKeever http://www.concernedchristians.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=42&func=view&id=79971&catid=10 Prophet Counsels Against Being "Unequally Yoked" (Mormon Coffee blog post) http://blog.mrm.org/2007/01/prophet-counsels-against-being-unequally-yoked/

Hon, that is what Mormons believe. "till death do us part" Mormons believe when you get married in a non Mormon church you are not together forever. It will be hell if he goes back to church because it is highly looked down upon that you are not a Mormon. I would not let it bother you too much. I was a Mormon and although I am not married seeing I am only 18 the church still was horrid. I learned not to be bothered by the church because it will drive you insane. If you want to pray about it, see if you are meant to join the church and if you are you can be sealed together in the temple (Mormon wedding) and you can have the security of being together forever, if Mormon doctrine is true, that is.

Yes. That is why all the wedding vows say "Til death due us part." But if he went back to church and you decided to convert, you could be married for time and all eternity in the celestial kingdom to become unified together and become a god and a goddess of your own someday.

I think if your husband wants to still be legally married to you, you will see that the change in His life style will benefit BOTH of you regardless and through patients with His change you can learn the eternal princial of Being sealed in the temple for an Eternal Marriage,

So this "celestial heaven" will suddenly spring into existence when you go to the Mormon Church? Yeah, that's logical. The Kingdom of God does not work like that. Read the Word, not the rantings of a polygamist maniac. "23That same day the Sadducees, who say there is no resurrection, came to him with a question. 24"Teacher," they said, "Moses told us that if a man dies without having children, his brother must marry the widow and have children for him. 25Now there were seven brothers among us. The first one married and died, and since he had no children, he left his wife to his brother. 26The same thing happened to the second and third brother, right on down to the seventh. 27Finally, the woman died. 28Now then, at the resurrection, whose wife will she be of the seven, since all of them were married to her?" 29Jesus replied, "You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. 30At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven."