How do I get my ex-wife to back off? No matter what I tell her she still tries to be part of my life. Wants to come over to talk, calls, txts, msn, etc. I have full custody of kids and don't want to be a prick to her, just can't seem to get her to stop
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Make it clear that she is your ex-wife for a reason and that you don't want her to come over to talk, call, tex, msn, etc. If she continues after that you might need to get a restraining order and make sure she follows it.
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If she can't take a hint then you need to stop worrying about "being a prick to her". Stop talking to her, stop allowing her to be part of your life. You have control over the situation, you simply need the will to exercise it.
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Sounds like you are a stalking victim. Contact your local law enforcement agency, complete a report for stalking. IF that does not stop the problem, file for an anti-stalking protection order. Such orders are criminal in nature, and carry monitary fines, and jail terms it the stalking continues. It's a shame to have to go to this extreme, but some people simply do not understand "no."
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cant answer if i dont know the full circumstances
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Restraining order.
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She's going to be part of your life for the next few years - until the kids are grown. She misses being a family. Make sure that all communication is strictly about the kids, and then get a girlfriend.
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Use your answering machine,screen all calls.If kids answer let them talk if they try to give you the phone take it & hang it up.Instruct them not to answer if she calls back,they've already spoken to her.Don't answer the door if she's at it.Explain to the kids what is going on.Never reply to a text or call her back,unless the kids are w/her,if it turns out not to be about them say you've got to go & hang up.Be very short w/her.It may take a few years & for her to find a boyfriend but eventually she'll give up.Good Luck....
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Sounds like it might be pricktime. Know anybody in the Gambini family? For a reasonable fee, they can make an offer to her she can't refuse. Problem solved. Cappisch? :-)
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kill her
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Use an answerphone, voicemail etc. Work out a routine that suits you for dealing with her messages, presumably you need to arrange times for access visits etc. She hopefully will get used to the times when you answer the phone, reply to texts etc. However, if she doesn't at least you would only be dealing with them during the allotted time that suits you. When you do speak/text her at these times ensure you are always polite and civil despite the nature of her calls/texts. If necessary, if when you listen/read messages you feel wound up do not reply until you have calmed down. It is imperative to keep a calm atmosphere for the sake of the children and whatever happened between you, both of you are their parents. Never bad mouth her to them, let them make up their own minds. I know from experience that children really do not miss much. Good luck.
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When my parents divorced my father woudl use the time he picked us up to have a go at my mother, she solved it by telling him hat from then on he could collect use at the gate and drop us back at the gate and that was it. After that he didn't bother to stop by anymore. I agree with Linnett, use an answer phone and pick a time that suits you to answer her calls. Explain you will talk about the children only and if she continues with other things tell Wehr you are hanging up. Do not give in because if you do it will continue. If the children can't wait at the gate for her where you can watch them from the house, try having a friend over who can wait with them so there is no contact with you. If all that fails, contact the police because then it is stalking.
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Have sex with her again, and call her Shaniqua. Unless her name is Shaniqua then call her....Judy.
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Sems like you have to change the whole not being "a prick to her" policy.
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Face it - once Kids are involved you guys are going to be connected by Parenting. Have a face to face with her - Lay down the law. Perhaps mediation might help.
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Sometimes you HAVE to play a little hard ball ... Get a "NO CONTACT" or a Restricted No Contact order" signed by a Judge .... it may sound harsh ; BUT ... you will be relieved and at peace .
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