What reasons do you think people have for having multiple children out of wedlock? I'm not talking about the typical pregnant teen, but people who live together and have children without benefit of marriage. Why?
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Other than tax breaks and additional medical benefits, there aren't any advantages to marriage. Besides, if a child is being raised by two people who love him/her, I can't see how a marriage license would make any difference.
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Marriage can be viewed as an un-needed expense the average wedding now costs £10-£15k and there is no longer the stigmatism of living in sin (at least not in UK) Unless religious, many couples are content with just being together without the pomp and circumstance of a church wedding. Also, many of the "benefits" are available now to couples living together 4 years of more.
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wouldnt the mother get paychecks from the government being single with a child? idk if its welfare or something else
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Why mend something that's not broken? Like everything in life, we all have different views and opinions on things, and to some marriage is just a peace of paper or document, to others it's a commitment, yet you can have a lifelong partnership without getting married. It is more of a commitment to have children together or buy a house as far as I'm concerned.
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That's because they know that marriage changes things and people start losing their minds doing the stupidest things then they'll end up in divorce court. And along with that people like to have very large families.
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Same reasons those within marriage have children I imagine. In New Zealand defacto relationships are recognised legally like marriages after a certain period of time anyway and since the parents names are on the birth certificates they have all the parental rights. Who needs a piece of paper?
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They don't realize all the legal and financial benefits they are losing out on by not having the marriage legalized. Yes, many consider themselves married, but the law does not, and that can hurt down the road. Many believe it could "save" them from the problems that come up when married couples end their relationship (divorce) but it does NOT. It just adds another layer of problems they wouldn't have otherwise have had. The financial benefits to an unmarried parent do not come anywhere close to those received by a married couple.
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I know more people with many children that live together out of wedlock.They are happy together,love their children though find marriage old fashioned.Marriage does not give a guarantee of a happy ,well adjusted family.
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I'm not sure, but from observance of some; I would say fear of their relationship changing from what it is to something else after they marry.
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It amazes me that it happens. But there are some who I think are so afraid that they will fail at the relationship/marriage that they do not ever go through with it. A marriage needs total commitment to work, and some people seem afraid that they would lose their individual identity if they say "I do".. I did, and I didn't! Some might be just too lazy to work at a successful marriage. Some might be children of divorced parents, and merely do not want to risk the hurt that a failed marriage would bring? A lot of words, but I really don't know. :)
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I live in the UK. I always thought marriage was a religous ceremony?
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I know people who do not get maried and have kids to get welfare money. The entire purpose for not marrying is so she can get the benefits for not being married with kids. I strongly disagree with this, but it seems like so many are doing it. Just for the money.
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marriage is not a guarantee of a happy life, if you're not religious you haven't got the fear of burning in hell
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I didn't come into the world with lots of certified pieces of paper. I have a birth certificate yes, but why would I need a certificated piece of paper before I had my children. It is freedom of choice and live and let live and that's the great thing about opinions we all have our own. I feel in a modern world we have moved on from a rigidity and I'm glad I live now and not 100 years ago. Burn your bra girls yeh!
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I think that we have to respect others opinions and decisions. If some people feel that marriage is better for their children then that is fine. Personally I feel it is misguided to rate children as poor for not having married parents. Ask children whose parents are married and being subjected to all sorts of damage that has not been listed, I feel that some people are liberal and others are not. We do not live in a one size fits all society. Myself I prefer to look at life from an Anthropological view point there are countless tribes, for whom marriage is unimportant but family is everything. That appeals to me much more. I hope this helps.
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i guess they just view a family differently. To them a family doesn't require a legally binding contract.
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I had a child with my wife before we were married. I would say that it was total iresponsibility on both our parts. I don't regret it at all, everything happens for a reason and in the end we did get married. There is an advantage to having children out of wedlock. We used to get way more back for income tax before we were married than we do now!
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I know people who say they don't believe in marriage, or are against marriage, and I guess what they mean is that, to them, marriage is an oppressive institution that has been artificially created by an illegitimate authority, like the government or the church.
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What exactly would be the "benefit" of marriage? What difference does it make to your relationship?
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I see the point your making but I think you would have to carry out a poll to assertain the reasoning for marriage vs non. That is a valid point you made about one wishing to have a quick exit route. However, many marriages are prone to affairs, bigamy etc just like those outside of marriage. At the end of the day, if a marriage or a relationship ends and children are involved I think that is tragic for the children involved. Hope this helps.
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Different states have different rules for gay relationships, and admittedly most people don't realise the benefits they're eligible for. Besides, you will see that most Australians who fight for gay marriage do it for equality of rights - not equality of benefits.
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We're some of those weirdos :) Can't see the point in getting married.
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i was 32 when I got pregnant. I am a single mom. We were not married. In today's society there are all kinds of families. thats life.
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