Wow, funny you ask, cause it's happening right now. It's affected me a whole deal. Dad mentioned to me how I'd been bringing up the topic of mum and I our current seperation every day. I didn't even realise. He told me about not getting stuck in the emotions so that I sink, and viewing it from above. It may sound soppy, but what with how things are at the moment, it made perfect sense to me. My mom grew extremely angry at me for something absolutely uncalled for. I knew if I tried to express my feelings, I'd get shouted at, so I went back to dads place and we haven't spoken for a week now, apart from the hurtful messages she sent me in the beginning. Whenever I try to express my side of the story, and how I'm feeling, I get rebuked. This sort of thing has been going on for years. How is it affecting me? I'm tired, unmotivated, frustrated, unsure of how to move forward because nothing seems to work anymore. But, this is how it is, so I'd rather look to making it better and accepting that I can only change myself and not the other person, instead of sulking about it. But everyone needs a bit of sorry-for-themselves time :] Pheww, thanks for allowing me to vent :)

yes.time makes every thing easy

When I was married, I had this problem, now that I look back, it was a great thing, at the time, I didnt think so, we have a volatile relationship, so anytime separated was a great thing. I got depressed, because to me I was failing at my marriage, and that was unexeptable.

Yes. My ex and I were separated at least twice, each time for several years. I have always loved affection, hugging, kissing, any form of affection. She on the other hand, can do without it entirely. We use to fight over whether she would "allow" me to hold her, etc. It's the basic reason we are no longer married.

Yes. At the time I was 26 and my sister was 30; not kids. All of my young life, when we lived at our parent's home, from the time I can first remember she made fun of me and would always try to start fights with me. Out of 6 sisters she was the only mean one; thank God. She got really drunk about 20 years ago and chased me around, beat up on my car and physically attacked me. I couldn't get her off of me and when I tried to push her away she bit on my thumb so hard I thought she was going to chew it off. I had to go to the hospital and while I was there police showed up to arrest me!!! My husband was with me and tried to tell him that she actually attacked me but we had been over her house at the time, and she lied and told them that we broke into her house and tried to hurt her!!! I showed them the injury I had and they didn't take me to jail, but I still had to go to family court. I had to stay out of work and stay at a courthouse most of the day because of this. Of course, she didn't show up and, luckily, I was able to talk to the judge and explain what happened. He dismissed the charges, but just the fact that she put me through that made me never want to speak to her again back then! She continued to drink and every time I would see her at my mother's house she would walk by me and slam her shoulder into mine like she was going to start a fight with me again! I started to avoid any situation that I thought might chance me running into her. She helped in my decision to move away from the area I lived in; it was a high-crime area anyway but thinking I might not have to deal with that was the clincher. Over the last 20 years, I've forgiven her and attempted to resolve those bad feelings, but I just can't seem to get past it. Every time I've been around her she's still mean and makes me uncomfortable; so much so, that I do my best not to have to see her. Two years ago, I went back home for one of my nieces weddings. She hates that branch of the family too and wouldn't go to the wedding, she knew the day after the wedding the other 6 siblings and family would be visiting at one of my sisters' house. She refused to go there too and thought I should instead opt to go with her to a friend of hers (who I don't know) picnic. I told her I would call her after I went to the gathering and did, but she would never answer the phone. That night, I just drove to her house and called again; just before arriving. She screamed at me and told me she had been sitting next to the phone with her kids all day and just didn't answer the phone because I didn't come to the picnic!! She kept screaming and I just said to myself, the hell with it and hung up. I haven't spoke to her since. It still affects me in a bad way because she is my sister and I love her unconditionally so it's painful for me to love her and not feel like that love is returned. I just can't deal with her and I think it's really sad that after all these years we can't at the very least, share some happy memories. I've decided that I'm just going to have to live with that sadness because I'm too old to give her any more chances to treat me badly and hurt me again.

Yes, it was tearing my heart out. He had his affair and the so called girl knew he was married.

Yes. It made me realize that my pride of not stepping up first and expressing I was wrong was NOT worth the pain I felt when I was without them.

Yes, that has happened to me. I had to separate myself from my husband due to unresolved conflicts a few times. It was stressful but not as stressful as living in the situation. It affected me by causing me to review the problems and to ask myself if the relationship with worthy working on or if it was time to move on. I felt scared.

Yes, it hurts like hell

I am in that situation because of our major differences. At first I felt as if he'd died and I was greif-stricken and a bit crazy, talking about him all the time, analyzing everyhting and longing to be back with him. But I knew there was nothing to be back with, really as he was cold and critical and rejecting. We've been apart over a year now and I feel a lot stronger tho' we're still in contact by phone and we see each other occasionally. We've been talking about giving it another go but part of me is afraid that he won't be any different, but maybe I have to give him a chance? It's hard to stop loving someone.

Yes. I was with someone for about five years, we just weren't meant for each other. It was fairly mutual. How did it affect me? It was hard to just leave someone that you care so much about. But I was and am a much happier and stronger person because of it.

Yes, absolutely. It has gone in stages, actually. At first, I was just in shock and couldn't believe it was happening. Then, I grieved. Afterwards - I engaged an anger period because I didn't feel at fault for the conflict. I'd hardly say I am at rest with the issue. All I can say is... this person in my life should have fought for me. Instead, we fought. I was compromised, constantly. It wasn't working, on repeated efforts. Sometimes you just have to walk away. Who knows what could happen in the future. The best guarantee for your present moment is to be honest with you can take and what you can't take, and then you respond by living your life. You have to be honest about what inhibits you so you can move forward accordingly.

Yes, it caused me great anxiety and self doubt.

wow this question of yours makes me go back several years back ten years back precisely. i loved a guy but my parents opposed because of religions things, we broke up, n i used to see him evryday on my way 2 college, it was really dificult to see the person you love evryday and you can't even talk to that person. I stopped eating correctly, i kept thinking about him whole day n night & i neglected my studies.