My mom always tells me that i'm going to pay for everything wrong i've done to her with my kids, do you think this is true? Do all parents say this?
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Berenise
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This is not neccesarily true. I vowed to raise my children differently than I was raised and while some of what goes around comes around the major stuff can be avoided with good parenting.
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She's just saying that you are going to finally "get it" when you have kids of your own and they react the same way you did.
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Is she joking, or serious when she says this? My MIL and mother joke about that, but no one takes it seriously because my husband and I were not bad kids - we were just typical kids. Every kid drives their parents a little crazy every now and then, no matter how "good" that child is. I think if it's said out of anger, though, that it's a pretty mean thing to say.
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A lot of parents do say this. I think kids are kids and they all try their parents patience more often than not. It is just how kids are. They are curious. They learn by more by making mistakes than by getting it right the first time. Accept the fact that your kids most likely will not be perfect and you will be just fine. On a side note, if my kids end up anything like me or my husband then we don't have so much to worry about now when they are young as we do when they become teenagers! Luckily between the two of us we know all the tricks and stunts that teens try to get away with so we are prepared!
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It sounds like she was just angry, it is not really a question of being made to pay for anything... however what I think she might have meant, or something that would at least make sense, is that you will realise by having children that parenthood can be very difficult and children can be very hard to manage, and that you will maybe come to regret any difficulties you caused for her with your behaviour (assuming you did misbehave) once you have viewed the mother-child relationship from the other side of the coin.
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M. My mother tells me this all the time, even when I don't do anything detrimental. :( so mean... Please, no. You know my mother was mean to my grandmother, but her child, me, is very nice to her. There you go.!
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Oh yes, Your kids will inherit your attitude and disposition just like you are now!! Got 7 reasons why thats true!!
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she might just be saying that you will realise what you put her through now you have children of your own. in other words now you are a mum/dad you will realise how much you worry about your children etc
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May be it is just her way of expressing her frustration over not being able to manage problems including the parent-child relationship. And it is not true either as you might turn out to be a better parent.
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my mom always told me this too. and i have a 5 month old that is the best anyone could ask for!
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Ha! my mom tells me the EXACT SAME THING. I think they say it out of anger, because she can't predict the future. Your kids will treat you the way you treat them.
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