Which do you think is worse? Having a deadbeat Dad that you've never met or having a drug addict Father that has caused you unbelieveable stress?
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Same difference. Both of them are self centered and care only about themselves. The drug user may be around so you can tell him what a jerk he is. Mr Bill
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the drug addict one
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It depends on how the stress was caused. If it was just from being a crackhead and occasionally stealing some money from you, or occasional molestation. If molestation, then the deadbeat dad.
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Wow, that's a toughy!! Since I've never been through either one, I really couldn't say. I am sure the child of either one of these fathers thinks their situation is worse and they would have good reason to.
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If you have a good loving Mother you don't need the deadbeat or the drug addict :o)
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i could never live with the question: what if? even a drug addict dad can teach you something, or serve as a warning. but what if...a truly haunting question.
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The deadbeat may not be there because he doesn't know you are, or that you want him to be. He may also just be anoter irresponsible guy that should be tracked down and made to contribute his share, beyond his sperm even if he has not the emmotional wherewithall to understand his greater responsibilities. The addict, well that is really dependant on who he is physiologically and psychologically. Dads are people and just as prone to get stuck in stuff or sucked into things as anyone. Sometimes these guys have great intents, but can only bring grief so long as they are addicted. I suggest gojng to an AA support type of group like ALANON and learning how to be firm and constructive in your dealing with him.... and avoid getting sucked into his world. It is also worth noting that if he has that sort of problem, you should probably be aware that it is often passed. The underlying issues can be dealt with, but seldom casually. When they surface they often wreck lives. Good Luck
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I would think that if you had to choose, the one you've never met over a drug addict because there isn't any negative or harmful influence.
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I think both are equally bad in their own way.
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I think it is better to know a bad father than no father at all.
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I think having a mentally abusive parent, is worse than an absent parent.
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