• for me, judging is comparing a person to myself or to some higher standard. like if i see someone tell a flat out lie, and i make a big stink about how they're a terrible person - like i haven't told a lie before. i think you can judge a person's character, but for your own personal purposes, not so you can gossip about them or discriminate against them.
  • character is moral values & u not judge a person as a friend if he/she LIES or sleeps with a married person or is an alcoholic or drug addict...we all have to character judge...and we all like or respect some, dislike or disrespect some... judging someones salvation or telling them they will go to hell is probably what u are asking....and for us to do that "we are condemning ourselves" cause that is the ONE AND ONLY'S JOB...between us & HIM.... hope helped, barbara
  • Thank you so much for calling out this pesky word "judgmental," a word that gets thrown around way too often because people want to be immune to criticism. Anywho, to me the word means "very quick to ascertain the value of a person's character before a reasonable amount of observation." Judging should be done objectively rather than subjectively; ie, before accepting your definition of a person's character, give the person the benefit of the doubt if that person has made a perceived mistake, and don't hold the person in high praise because of a perceived good deed. Also, don't be quick to tell a third party your thoughts on another person's character before you are sure you have pinpointed it. So the moral of the story? Think before you speak.
  • I don't think so! ;)
  • To me, judgmental means making judgments. It isn't a dirty word. It is necessary to make judgments in order to survive and to progress. We make judgments constantly. We judge whether we have time to make a turn in front of an oncoming car. We judge whether we can trust a co-worker to do their part of a project. We judge whether our 3rd grader has a good teacher. We judge who we think should lead the country. We judge which wine will go best with our meal. The objectionable part of judgment is prejudice, which literally means "judging before". It means making judgments subjectively, without facts, without a reasonable basis for a judgment. Examples would be - "that Mexican in the oncoming car won't yield for me so I won't make the turn"; "that fat chick won't do her part of the project"; "Susie's teacher has a Southern accent, so she must be stupid"; "Obama sounds like Osama, so he can't be president"; "White wine is for sissies". Those judgments are made without facts, or with faulty logic. Often I hear people say, "don't judge me". Sorry, but I do judge you on the basis of your actions over a period of time. I'm not looking at just one incident or one trait. I'm trying to find out whether you're someone I can trust, befriend, work with, fall in love with and so on, and that means I WILL make judgments about you, based on what I observe through your actions about your character.
  • I would say the negative overtones of the word refer to the problem that occurs when we judge someone based on limited information, using fixed expectations and standards. If you don't know the whole situation, you're not really in a position to judge -- and if you are too closely bound to your own rigid ideas about what's good and bad, you won't be able to put yourself in the shoes of another and evaluate their situation as a whole. So the word has come disconnected somewhat from the word "judgment", which is generally regarded as a helpful capacity. It's taken on a new meaning, something like "jumps to harsh conclusions on limited evidence from a rigid frame of reference".

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