According to my sister (who usually dates the bad boys), nice men are boring. I don't share that opinion, I am married to a nice man, loving man. Tomorrow will be our 6th anniversary.

not me! i only want to associate myself with respectable,financialy secure loving men! love me someone please,i am an awsome cook,hard working,loving woman who wants nothing more than to be the person you idalize.

I haven't put my boyfriend in the friend zone.

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Women are told to look for that when they are growing up. But by the time they hit middle school they start buying into the “chemistry” BS. Like you should have sparks or a big POOF! When you add the elements together. Many times with the equal folly of opposites attract. Opposites in chemistry work toward a function they are not a part of a union or the same team. Gas and a match causes a certain reaction. That reaction is usually swift then gone. Burns hot then flames out. This reaction is exciting. Most people love roller coaster because it feels dangerous. So women go get bad boys because they are like the gas ignited by the match, they are loose cannons and not safe. The good guy is like watching a hydroelectric dam. Does what it is suppose to, will do it faithfully as long as the river flows, but just not exciting to watch do it.

i guess when u meet a genuinely good man, u think tht mayb its just too good to be true, and u dont want to get your hopes up, so u dont even bother trying....

Personally, I find it hard to believe that they're geuine because I've been burned so many times. I've been lead to believe that the person has genuine interest in me, and that they actually care, when they are just playing games. Due to this, I have an extremely hard time trusting and believe anybody and when a nice guy does come along, I tend to not take them seriously. It scares the daylights out of me to imagine somebody actually being serious about me.

All I can say is, you don't know what you've got until it's gone. And, to have something you've never had takes doing something you've never done before. If you have a good a man and he treats you good, and makes you feel good, then give him a chance. But, don't make it harder for him because you can't appreciate his goodness. I haven't met my good man yet. But, when I do, I'm not ever letting go.

I disagree. When I found a good man I married him, 24 years ago.

Not me. Many women had done that to my husband before I met him, and I'm glad they did. When I got a chance, I grabbed on and held on tight. Their loss was very definitely my gain.

that has happened to me before. for me, it's usually i dont have that inital infactuation to them, it attracts me when boys are complicated because i want to get to know them, the challenge and to help them. but with nice guys theres no chase usually. you dont get the first real infacuation where you want to get to understand why the person is a "bad guy" or whatever. but if you do date a good guy he will treat you right and with time you will love him because infactuation goes away after a little while and you can either love someone or you cant. also if you dont love yourslef and you are with a good guy you will feel weird when they compliment you and feel like you arent good enough for them where as a bad guy you feel better then them and it makes you feel better about yourslef.. so you need to learn to love yourself first and then you can be with the good guy who will make you happy

The biggest reason is that people ignorantly want what they can't have! People are wired for challenges! Also, nicer guys usually but not always, aren't as attractive as bad guys. They don't get a lot of attention from women, and when they do, they appreciate it! Bad guys, usually but not always, are generally sexier and get more attention from women which boosts their ego. Being single, staying unattached, and getting attention from MULTIPLE girls seems to boost their already large ego. This is generally speaking, not always the case.

The problem is is that most women are not really interested in the first place.

Im a nice guy and have been married on lock down for the last 8 years so I dont know what to tell you

You know what, i have two amazing guys that i put in the friend zone and when i hang out with either of them im treated like a princess and they have both made it obovious that we could be together!! But for some messd up reason that i dont understand i go for guys who dont care about me and treat me like shit and you know what there not even as good looking as the other 2 but i cant help it, i hate it but i cant help it!!!

Excuse me for answering a question with a question (and PLEASE excuse me for answering, when in fact; I'm a man, as this question seems to be directed toward women), but... Question; what if we are respectful of women, and will do anything to make her happy, are loyal only to her (making her the center of our world), will do anything to protect her and make her feel safe, DON'T want her ONLY for sex (as I don't much see sex as a need, rather, a want, and am worried for her pleasure, not my own), is shy and open with emotions, can offer a listening ear (as well as a hug, and a crying shoulder, and can cry with the girl), and have a want for danger and adventure? What then, if the guy is a "Nice-Guy/Bad-Boy?" It does seem to me that despite what end of it you are on, "bad-boy" or "nice-guy" there is a tendency to not have luck with women. Women, also, sometimes do not look for these "nice guys" until it is usually too late, because most women go through a "liking bad-boys" stage. Furthermore, it seems (as I have experienced as such) that some women want to put us in the "friend-zone" and keep us there to keep from hurting us or ruining the friendship. I hope I have at least been somewhat helpful. :)