I think most young people today all live "scripted" lives. They don't follow their heart and minds, they just do what they see everyone else doing. The most important thing to them is fitting what they think everyone does. Go to college, get a job, get married, have kids. They're so ruled by trying to "fit the mold" that they end up settling for someone that they might not really be able to spend their whole lives with. Then, as they get older, and the social pressures wear off, they end up looking around and realizing their mistake.

It is better to say gf/bg, no divorce at all.

I don't think they are MARRYING for the wrong reasons, but they are getting divorced for the wrong reasons. The greatest chance of you getting divorced is in the third year of marriage. Which says to me is that most people, beyond the "passionate" love don't know how to make it work. Love doesn't end there, but at that point it needs more work. It becomes "compassionate". And that is what is meant to last. It is waves instead of a spark. People often miss the "spark".

I dont know if they are marrying for the wrong reasons, but one thing I know for sure is they are not understanding the depth of commitment marriage takes.. People get married and then the power struggle begins..who's career is more important??Who family is more important?? Who will take charge of the family finances??If young couples would work all this out BEFORE marriage..the divorce rate would go down...as it stands now.i would like to make a formal announcement..LOVE DOES NOT CONQUER ALL....PLEASE DISCUSS THINGS AND USE COMMON SENSE BEFORE MARRIAGE..

I think people have always married for the wrong reasons, but since we no longer live in an age where women depend on men for their income, and women are not "damaged goods" after they get divorced, women are less likely to stay in unhappy marriages like they did in the past. There isn't such a stigma attached to divorce like there used to be. This is a good thing, but the bi-product of that is that marriage is no longer as sacred as before..marriage is the new dating. People do it and get divorced and do it again and get divorced...it's not a big deal, because people are not pressured to stay married like they once were. So in the end, it's a double edged sword..yes divorce rates are higher than ever before..but I don't think it's because people made the wrong decisions more than people did in the past, in fact people in the past probably got married more out of pressure from parents, society and economics much more than they do now. So the reasons are better now (I do tend to think most people getting married now do it for love) but the institution of marriage just isn't what it used to be. Statistics show more women file for divorce than men do, again that supports the idea that women are not as pressured to stay in a failing marriage like they once were, they can support themselves now, they can have careers and be successful without a man. Society doesn't view a divorced woman as a bad thing like they used to (and still do in certain areas of the Eastern hemishpere).

The real reason for the divorce rate is lack of commitment. They marry and say "let's see if this works" and quit at the first major hurdle. They SHOULD marry and say "This will work" and put everything they have and are into making it work. When they reach the first hurdle, and every one thereafter, they need to close ranks and pull together to meet the challenge. I've been married 38 years, and I tell you from personal experience, it works.

i think the love of money and sex is a major factor in the divorce rate. People are living beyond their means causing finacial problems in the marriage. Then they try to fix it with "spicing up" the sex life. I doubt that bringing extra women into the marriage bed ahs saved too many marriages!